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A True Love Story of Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny

Morning peeps.

I usually know the title i should name for each post very quickly the moment i started typing. But it is really not easy this time, i will just see what comes to my mind later on.

I had a rough night and i woke up this morning feeling extremely tired and my eyes are swollen. I guess i have not cried so much for a long time and i cried my heart out last night at my neighbor’s wake.

Frankly, i am not a very friendly person (but i can be), i am never close to the neighbors but we do greet each other because that is simply manners.
In short, i do not usually interact much with the neighbors.

Nevertheless, i would like to tell a  story today.

The story is not about me. It is a simple, yet magnificent love story.
Sounds cliche much, i know. Especially when it comes from someone (yours truly) that has lost all faith in Love between a Man and Woman, that is. Haha.

Before anything, let me warn you, this is gona be a REALLY LENGTHY POST but it is definitely worth a read.

Ok, let’s start.

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Characters
Let’s give names to the characters of my story. There are Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny, their grandson Ah Boy and Ah Boy’s dad…let’s call him Mr Hum.

Don’t ask me why these names, they are fictional names but the they are real characters.

Uncle Potato was 20 when he married Auntie Tiny. They knew they were made for each other then and during their  time, getting married at 20 years old is a norm.
Life was not easy and back in those days, there was limited education about birth control and they had a whole truck of kids (i exaggerated, only 7….yah.)
But none of them complain, they knew this is what they wanted, they love their family, they love each other. Despite all odds and hardships.

Note: People nowadays are also capable in saying such stuff, but how many of them can actually do it and endure each other till the end? #foodforthought

Characters and their Family
Time flies and the 7 children grew up, all of them gotten married and the children left the family one by one to start their own family.

Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny were back to where they began, they were left with each other.
The children do come back to the house to visit them quite often though.
Something in the family happened and their eldest son Mr Hum stays with them with their grandson Ah Boy (Mr Hum’s son).

Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny were the ones that gave Ah Boy family love and Ah boy is no doubt, very close to the both grandparents.
Perhaps even closer to them than his own Dad because his Dad has to spend time outside to make a living.

The 4 of them are my neighbors and to be honest, they are really nice people.
I do not have many nice neighbors considering that one likes to gossip and spread rumors, one likes to throw dog poo out of the window and etc.
Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny can easily win the BEST NEIGHBOR AWARD.
They are friendly, helpful and very well mannered, despite the fact that they might not be highly educated, they are humble people.

My First Real Interaction with them
I remember  that there was once which Mum and i were locked out of our house, we needed help to make a phonecall and we had no phones with us, we went to Uncle Potato’s house. He and his wife welcomed us with the warmest hospitality. We made our phonecalls and yes, they were so warm and it really touched my heart. I will never forget that small favour they rendered and since then, i grew to like them even more.

About Ah Boy
Please do not ask me where is Ah Boy’s Mother, i am clueless. But despite staying with 2 uneducated old folks, Ah Boy is extremely polite and very sensible. There was a period of time which he stopped greeting my Mum when he sees her and we wondered y.
We then realized that he is actually just a very shy boy and as he was growing up, he probably felt uneasy to interact with people.
We have all been through that phase, didnt we?

However, he grew out of it, he is 11 yr old now and he started greeting my Mum whenever he sees her. There was one incident in which he didnt hold the lift for my Mum despite seeing her approaching. My Mum did not blame him, thinking that he is just a child. But he actually explained to her that he did not wait for her because he was rushing for his tuition and he apologized.
My heart melted when i heard this from my Mum and all i can say is, Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny really taught him well.

The  Bad News
The happy days lasted while it lasted. Approximately 6 months ago, Auntie Tiny was diagnosed with 2 tumors in her brain. That news came when she was complaining of headaches. Uncle Potato was heartbroken but he had never give up hope.

Uncle Potato chatted with my Mum then and according to Mum, his eyes turn teary whenever he talk about Auntie Tiny. But he was still full of hope and Mum encouraged him too.

Sadly, there was no good news. The tumors multiplied into 4 and by then, Auntie Tiny had almost lost all conscious of what was happening and she could not recognize Uncle Potato anymore. She could not sleep and she started sleep walking every single night.
Ah boy was really sad, so was his dad Mr Hum.
Uncle Potato felt helpless but all he knew was that he will be there for his wife till  the end.
He never sleep a wink everynight and because Auntie Tiny sleepwalk alot, he would walk around the house with her, fearing that she might knock into objects.

This situation went on for 5 months.
One morning, Uncle Potato slept for abit as Auntie Tiny seemed to be resting too. He woke up and found no one at home, feeling panicky, he wanted to rush out to look for Auntie Tiny.
But the moment he opened his gate, there she was, standing at the gate with Kopi, Beehoon and Rice.

Uncle Potato: Where did you go early in the morning???
Auntie Tiny: I went to buy food for you and the family (Ah Boy and Mr Hum)
Uncle Potato: Don’t need la! So dangerous, dont go out again anymore ok?

As Uncle Potato was narrating this part to me last night, my heart melted and i was already tearing non stop but what he said later was worse, it totally broke me up into pieces. I know lah, my threshold for such touching stuff is really low. I cannot tahan one leh!

So, Uncle Potato continued: When we were both healthy, Auntie told me before that she wants to leave first you know?
I: huh, when you both were younger and she wasnt ill that time ar?
Uncle Potato: yah lor. she wanted to leave first. haha.
I: then what did you say?
Uncle Potato:  I say to her, Cannot la! 
I: haha then what she say?
Uncle Potato: she say she wants and now her wish came true. ahha

FML, my heart shattered again.

The Last Days
Many times after work, i walked pass their unit seeing Uncle Potato hugging a skinny and scrawny Auntie Tiny. They were watching TV prog together and honestly, i was really comforted by the scene after a long day of work everyday.

Because i no longer believe in such love and what was shown to me, in my face was so real and unpretentious. I felt abit ashamed.

As you have already guessed, the time for Auntie Tiny to leave was near…On Tuesday morning, Aunty Tiny passed on.
I did not have a clue because nothing was amiss or different on that morning and i went to work as usual, their unit was not crowded with people or anything.
However, i received a text in the noon from my Mum, asking me to call her. I called her and she told me that Auntie Tiny has passed on.
My heart sank and i was reminded of my dream of her a month ago.
I dreamt that i was chatting with Auntie Tiny and in my dream, she was very healthy, not scrawny, very smiley. She looked relieved.
Wishing that the news is not true, Mum said over the phone that Uncle Potato has confirmed that Aunty Tiny has passed on and the wake will be held opp our block.

Honestly, i cant say i am grief stricken because we were not that close but i really wish that she can stay on longer. I felt sad.
Mum and i went to the wake of Auntie Tiny and Uncle Potato sat with us and shared about their story.
He told me something which i really want to hold dear in my heart, and i really want to share this with my readers, whether you are attached or not (it applies to your family members as well)

Uncle Potato said this: I am married  to my wife for 56 years, we are both 76 now. She has been my Only One. No One else.
We bickered but we have never quarreled .
You know why? I  believe when a person is gone (dead), he/she will just lie down there motionless, he/she will never be able to quarrel no matter  what
. So, i really cherish the times i had with her, i have never liked the idea of quarreling.
I will just take whatever she say.
Now, those words are in me, and it is never too late to start to cherish, dont quarrel. Dont even give yourself the chance to quarrel because there comes a day which someone will pass and then you have to get used to the silence.

I totally broke down at this as i was reminded of how quarrelsome i am sometimes, with my family.

Uncle Potato: She bought a lot of rice to wrap dumplings, i threw them away already as that is not gona happen.
We used to go to the market daily, buy groceries, watch sunset together and we go everywhere together.
We would buy 4 ducks, 2 chickens to give to our relatives during CNY.
This coming CNY, i am gonna be alone doing these.
No, i wont cook anymore, because it is tasteless without her.
If she is still around, i am sure we will not only be married for 56years, maybe more.

Mum grabbed Uncle Potato’s hands and said: dont worry Uncle, she has gone to a better place, dont be sad.
Uncle Potato’s eyes was teary and he was fighting back his tears all the way.
It pains me so much.

I finally mastered my courage to say i wanted to see Auntie Tiny for the last time. Uncle Potato brought me to the coffin and there she was, lying in the coffin with a pearl in her mouth (Chinese Tradition) and she was really tiny.
My tears were flowing non stop and i kept telling her to rest in peace and have a good journey to the better place.
Uncle Potato whispered to her “look who is here, your neighbor and her daughter. can you hear what they told you? walk carefully to wherever you are, dont worry ok, bless them ar!”

Mum was crying too, she told Auntie Tiny to not worry, and we left the coffin. Ah Boy was burning paper money beside the coffin. (Chinese Tradition)

Because Mum and i are Christians, we did not offer any joss sticks. We did bow ourselves and frankly, i never felt any closer than the time i was speaking to Auntie Tiny at the coffin. It meant alot to me than offering joss sticks (sorry, no offences, just my personal opinion, i do respect the tradition but yah, i have my own belief)

We stayed for around an hours plus chatting with Uncle Potato and i was really glad  that Mum overcame her fear and went to the coffin to ‘speak’ to Auntie Tiny. We bid our last goodbye.

I know that Uncle Potato is thankful that we dropped by but nothing we say will make him feel better. But i believe this loving couple will meet someday. They are just separated for the time being. Maybe the One up there wana give them a tiny test.
Since they have never been separated ever since they were married, this is a tiny test and  also for them to miss each other’s presence.

I pray for nothing but God to take good care of Uncle Potato and Ah Boy. I heard that Ah Boy was devastated…But may the Lord be with them. Uncle Potato, i know you will always love Auntie Tiny, she lives in you forever, and i am sure you guys will meet someday.

I cant be more happy to dedicate this very simple, down to earth story to all my readers.This story has no extravagance, no luxurious marriage proposals, no wonderful ending, but it is the most real, most touching and most significant story i ever encountered.
I even thought to myself, perhaps i will never meet such a loyal and loving partner in this lifetime, but i am glad i am once so close to a fairytale.

It is a shame that i got to know this story at a wake, but i am very honored to be able to share this story to many of you.

Remember what Uncle Potato says?

Dont even give yourself the chance to quarrel with your partner because
there comes a day when someone will pass and then you have to get used to the silence
.

Cherish your partner and Family. They might not come again even if there is next life.

Meanwhile, Goodbye Auntie Tiny, i am glad we crossed paths. 🙂 RIP in your paradise! This Post is dedicated to both you and Uncle Potato.

Thank God for showing me that True Love really does exists. It might not be on me, it might not be people of this era, but it does exists.
And a True Love Story will never have an ending because this story will go on and on…

Here is a song that my Sister suggested because i was asking her what song suits this story the best.
I have never cry so much listening to this song, although nice, but i am quite numb to loving radio friendly songs.
But, after this, i will always get  reminded of Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny whenever i hear this song.

Indeed, it is the best song ever….

And between now and then, till i see you again, i’ll be loving you….Love me~

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Happy Birthday Mummy Love

Hola!

It is finally the eve of 2 PH that is connected to the weekends! Wee!!! I really cant wait for 6pm to come, the start of my long weekend~ I want nothing but my bed. Thanks.

Anyway, this post is a little late. My Mum’s bday was yesterday and the celebrations we had was sometime back.

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Firstly, i really want to say i am sorry, for being so harsh on Mum on days she couldnt express herself properly, on days she refused to listen to me, on days which i feel lousy. I am so sorry  that she has to put up with me constantly. Frankly, she show me how unconditional her love is and in order to love unconditionally, 1 has to ACCEPT – accepting whatever lousy characteristic and habits of the loved one.
I always say i love her unconditionally, but Love is patient and i am not even patient towards her, whenever she do something that doesnt pleases me, i get pissed. I am terrible. I am terribly guilty. 😦

I have to remind myself daily that i will not scream nor shout at her  anymore (despite situations), and i will always give in to her because she is getting old and she might not be as alert as before and that i ought to (REALLY OUGHT TO) be very patient with her.

I know i cant do it, i seek for prayers and i am praying that i am able to love her unconditionally like how she loves me, thru Christ.

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So, even though Mummy might not be able to read this part, i still feel better writing it out because i do not want to portray  that perfect daughter image but in actual fact, i am actually far from being perfect.

Having said that, even though i might not like Mummy all the time, i Love her always.

Thank you God, for giving me sucha nice, strong and loving Mummy. I really thank You for her. I thank my Mum for being so strong, so loving, towards me and my sis. Thank u Mummy that you have never thought of leaving us nor giving us up ever since the day Dad let us down. Thank you for your love Mummy, your love is very strong.

Anyway, 6th of August is the day my Superwoman’s birthday. We celebrated the week before at MBS for a weekend staycation.

The hotel is really overcrowded and all weekends are fully booked till next year. I tried asking a few friends that are connected to the place but all of them told me that the hotel is fully booked for weekends. I was rather disappointed.


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However, thanks to my wonderful pretty lovely cutesy GF, i managed to get a room! HAHA. It was on a Sunday though, thus sis and i have to take leave on Monday. Doesnt matter because Mum secretly wishes to stay at MBS for sometime. But i do know that all she ask for is peace in the family and us to be safe. She is not someone that will desires or lusts for luxury.

So we checked in on Sun, GF and Chris bought a Birthday Fruit Tart (big enough for 6 pax) and we did the usual lah, singing and clapping along with the Birthday song.
After Chris and GF left, Aunt (yes we invited Aunt too!) Mum, sis and i went up to the Skypark and took some pictures, walked around the boring shopping mall and had dinner.

We were quite lethargic actually.

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I guess there is nothing to be unhappy about with the service of MBS. You guys ‘know’ i am quite a fussy person when it comes to Service (even though i do not admit to that, lol)
But really, we do not need to comment much on MBS’s services. I am saying this not because it is a huge name nor because it is ‘branded’.

Even the food of their ‘affordable and casual’ class of bistro possesses restaurants’ standards. A must try is the ‘Ayam Penyet’ at A Taste of Nanyang. It is affordable, costing less than $10 a plate. We did not try any fine dining because Mum is definitely not into that. Knowing her, she will reprimand us for spending a bomb for something so little and knowing her, she rather have local delights. :s
So anyway, if you are not intending to spend alot since the room alraedy costs quite a bit, try out A Taste of Nanyang  on level B1. If not, you may also try ordering the food from the room. I had Fish and Chips and it is okok, cant really remember the price for that but  price is approx $20 for Wanton Mee, Never get to try the raved about Fine dinings there, perhaps another time.

Mum watched her tv prog on channel 8 and Sis and i strolled around the mall to digest the food in us. We popped into 7-11 and ended up buying more snacks. LOL.

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Went back to the room with lotsa food and we spent the night chatting away with FOOD. Mum was feeling tired and she slept before we did. On the next day, Sis and i went pool dipping and camwhored like crazy. Then we checkout and brought Mum to lunch.

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I was feeling so CRAZILY TIRED pls. I always feel tired whenever i stay in hotels because i can never sleep well outside, i cant even slp well on my own beloved bed, not to say other beds. No expensive beds can make me crash immediately.  Sis then went to the hospital for her check up , Mum and i went home after lunch.

Mum was happy although she keep nagging at us for the surprise as she hates surprises because she will want to prepare this prepare that for event like that. I also do not know what is there to prepare. LOL.

On 3rd Aug, we went to House of Seafood for her 2nd celebration. This time round, we included Aunt as well as Granny. The place was raved like crazy by my colleague  and online but OH please, listen to me, DONT GO. DONT EVEN TRY. I will do a Vshare on House of Seafood in my next post so i wont spoil this Bday post.

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Yesterday was the actual day of Mum’s hatchy. I intended to bring her out for dinner again but sadly, i kinda lost my temper on her in e morning. I want to kill myself! :s

She was asking me for advices for some work related issues which i hope i wont get to write it here because if i do, it will be a bad and big thing then. But i was pissed when she refused to listen nor believes. I hate it whenever i am asked YET doubted at the same time. It is very frustrating.

Thus the morning was not very good for us. Things got better in the evening and we went for dinner downstairs my house. I bought durians for her as she was craving madly for durians. We finished 2 boxes of durians (that is a total of 3 med size durians and 4 small durians) on the night itself. Thankyouverymuch and FML.  I probably will cry when i see the weighing machine this Thurs.

So, her Bday ended with a prayer from me. My sis is still at Taiwan so she sent back her wishes and we are waiting for her to be back on Thurs.

Well, i do not know how to end this post so i shall end it with a simple prayer for my dearest Mummy, do pray for her as well ok?

May the Lord bless her with His presence for His presence is nothing but the best we  can ever ask for.
His presence heals and He brings joy and peace.
May He shower all His love and blessing on my Mummy, may Jesus bless her with Longevity and safety daily.

Amen! 🙂

 

 

Everyone should be accepted. Yes, even Gays.

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I am utterly disappointed once again, with fellow human beings.

Frankly, i am filled with anguish as i type this. I am also tearing while i do this. I do not know how these people can throw stones at others like as if they have the right  to.
I can imagine how sad the lost feels, the gay who confess his fear, his sadness, his extreme depressed soul got tempted to give up his life due to these judgmental comments coming from the ‘Pharisees’ of this era.

I do hope that these ‘Pharisees’  are not believers because i feel really sad seeing their hate messages towards others. If they are believers,  y and how can they say such things? Did they not remember what did Jesus say about acceptance and love?

I thought we have the same God in us, then how is it they can hurt and condemn others without hesitating, without love?

Why should condemnation exist?

I am pasting some printscreens and i am blogging about this because these people used God’s name to judge others.
I am not speaking on behalf of Jesus, but from what i was taught, all people are equal in His eyes, gays or not gays, murderers or not murderers.

We only have to speak the truth. It is indeed written that same sex should not be involved sexually. Well, that is a truth and i will not deny what is written, There are alot more commandments and we were told of no fornication and look at how many people in the world engages in sexual r/s before marriage? Look at the amount of lies from different people, look at the greed of people.

I am not saying we should all sin, i am saying that we sin differently. If we were to judge others, the judging will never stop. I repeat, IT WILL NEVER STOP.

You dont judge others just because they sin differently from you, Aaron Says So and Fan Bonk KeeShame on you 2 that cant let go and keep judging as if you both are perfect. Moreover, who are you to give the verdict of sinning? Who are you?
Having said that, i still do not want to keep labelling Gays as sinners, i said before and i say again, all of us human beings ARE sinners.

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Aaron Say So ·  Top Commenter · National University of Singapore
(Wonderul education qualification, but i am sad that education actually makes one stupid sometimes)

this Valencia Lesley is saying we all have to respect thieves and robbers, because Jesus is loving. 
So what if Jesus is loving? It is written, “brush off the dust from your scandals”. 
– Right, you TOO should be brushed off because you are behaving worse than thief and robber by robbing and stealing respect for the human kinds.
Brush off the dust? Yah, dont just quote part of a verse or scripture from a bible and take words out of context, you want to talk about bible, here is a verse for you –

Matthew 7:1-3 King James Version (KJV)

7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.

And he mentioned:
inside the pub, gay “a” who just get to know gay “b” for a few minutes, was rubbing his private part on gay “b” ‘s leg. gay “b” cheekily looks at the camera and says “he is rubbing me”. Come on, what is this? Is sex the only thing in a gay mind? I’m a man and I love woman, can I go around rubbing my private part on strangers? That gay inside the video even proudly declare he had over 50 sex partners. What over 50 sex partners? where is the humanity? Aren’t gay supposed to be faithful to one another? I’m sure if I walk into any gay pubs, most of the gays will be delighted to entertain me and hopefully have sex with me. Come on, think carefully, are you comfortable to have these gays mixing with your children? 
If you have to insist that gays are philandering, it just goes to show how ignorant you are. I can give you a list of places to go, to see how straight men and women behave too.
Maybe you were at those places before too, or perhaps you should try going sammyboy forum to find out how some straight people behave. Alternatively, go to any club and you might be lucky enough to catch some action going on.
Whats with the youtube link? You want to post links, i can give u 1482482334 links of how SOME straight people behaves in different clubs all over the world.Cmon, dont say such thing as Gays should be loyal and faithful to earn respect. EVERYONE SHOULD BE faithful.The raising divorce rate of the normal couples, do we judge that and say because divorce rate is high, we shouldnt get married?
Please do not suggest such silly bullshit about adultery, it might happen to anyone and it might be you or me or any other straight person. Hope you are a virgin or that you only sleep with 1 person in your entire life. Clapclap*
Lastly, you would rather spend time helping the poor? You have to choose who to help? Is that genuine love? Then i would choose to help who i want to help in the future and declare proudly to others that i am so helpful because i help the poor, and only the poor. While on the other hand, i type furiously behind the keyboard and judge the gays and secretly want them to die.
BRAVO. That is SO KIND of you. Maybe you can also come up with a list of people you would want to help and check off the ones that you personally detest which Jesus loves. Please do not argue with me on this because even when we deny Jesus, HE still chooses to love us. This is a fact, HE doesnt choose who to help and who not to help? Hello? If you want solid Truth from the bible since you love quoting, here it is, TRUTH, you like TRUTH right, you get it:

1 John 4:10

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10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

1 John 4:19 New International Version (NIV)

19 We love because he first loved us.

And despite that you keep saying/judging  that the gays reject God and all, too bad but God still loves them.

Ephesians 2:8 

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,

As for you, do you think you abide in God? I would love to think you DO NOT, but i let God do the judging. But by seeing the verses and WHAT IT IS WRITTEN, i really feel you do not know God. For God is love and if you do not love, you do not know Him.

1 John 4:16 

So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us.
God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.

1 John 4:7-21

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God’s Love and Ours

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of Godand knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.

THERE IS NO FEAR IN LOVE, PERFECT LOVE CAST OUT ALL FEAR. By writing all those scary judgmental stuff, you are creating fear and i dont know how you can do that in the name of God. Put it simply, if Jesus is here today, He wouldnt do what you are doing.

GOD WILL NEVER PUT ANYONE DOWN.

Please understand that you and i are human, we are not supposed to judge madly about whoever’s sexual preference is, and etc. We can tell them what is written and stop at there, afterall, it is their choice and God gives us freedom of choice, Who are you to force your choice on others?
Lastly, i dont think so, nope. Please dont be so narcissitic to that extent, what makes you think any gay would want to make out with you.
Take a look in the mirror before saying things so loudly and proudly, i almost thought that sentence came from Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.
I know you are super in love in yourself, good for you.
And yes, i am comfortable with my kids mixing with nice people, Gays or not.
I wud b worry if my kids mix with the philandering straight people too.
It is all about the character of the individual and i will never categorize anyone as BAD or UNFAITHFUL just because of their sexual preference.
It is 2 diff thing. I would be worried if my kid mixes ard with a mean judgmental person, like yourself.
And who knows how much porno you MIGHT watch. Opps, did i just judge lik you did, i am sorry if i did.
Anyway, my name is Valencia, not “THIS Valencia”, i do not add any silly nick infront or behind my name. Whereas you seem to deem everything you said as Truth because YOU SAY SO and you have to  insist in your name, i doubt anything else can go into your judgmental one sided brain. So, WHATEVER, if You Say So.

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I am STILL insisting that Gays are human beings and we ALL have human rights as long as we are human beings. We should ALL be respected.
I am seeing this world as a whole not because i am perfect, i am not perfect. I still cant hold my anger towards people sometimes, i get jealous at times too. I am not flawless and nobody is. Thus instead of being self righteous and judge others, i rather believe that everyone is the same, despite status nor monetary value. We come as dust, we leave as dust. Here i am talking about respect for all human kinds. We need respect, every individual.
I wanted to delete this blogpost and i actually wrote this days ago, i was still thinking if i should publish this as this topic is so subjective and debatable,
It is not worth the time and effort as this problem will never go as long as i dont know when. But i really cant contain it within myself and see these people ‘bullying’ the Gays, I personally dont think anyone has the rights to do that.
I was being reprimanded and lectured by many many people the other time i stood up to speak up for the Gays. Most of the times, i was told that i am a Christian, i need to represent God and be strict with what is in the Bible.
I do not know if i am going against God, but i have acknowledged that it is written that individuals of the same sex should not be involved. I am not painting a nice picture and being a hypocrite like what Fan Bonk Kee was suggesting above. I know what is written. I know they are laws.
I Love my Belief, i Love God and i really really respect what was taught to me.
BUT it is also a fact that Jesus accepts all kinds of people. He doesnt discriminate and condemns. He told us what is good for us, and He leave the choice to us. I still believe that and i believe He loves us despite any situation.
I know this post will anger alot of people and i know it will definitely offend a group of Christians. I am sorry. I cant be self righteous for this matter, i cant blame nor point fingers to blame Gays. If you cant accept me or this post, too bad.
I cant stress enough on how SOME Christians turn very self righteous as time goes by. They feel that they are God, they forbid any freedom of choice and speech. I wouldnt wish to be like that.
Besides, we are supposed to learn to accept, i am still learning hard. If we do not accept, who will? God want us to accept, to love, to help,
By shutting people you dislike and detest out, how will they ever know who God is? Isnt that too rigid? Jesus does not only mixes with the good, instead, He mixes with the saddest, worst people.
Again, i emphasize, i am in no way saying Gays are saddest  or worst people. I have always been seeing everyone as human being, not an object categorized by his or her sexual preference.
And frankly, if you ask me if i will want my kids to be Gays or Lesbians? My answer is No. I am not being hypocrite, i just cant bear to see my son or daughter get bullied in future. The society now does not recognise human rights, there are too many people judging. I worry for their well being,
And yes, i would rather they are straight because that is what is deemed as ‘normal’ in this society, and fine, i admit that my belief says so too.
But i am sure i will still love my children very much because they are my children and nothing changes that fact. Same as God, we are His children, i will never believe  that HE will hate us because of the choice we made.
I will accept and respect my kids no matter what.

Just to add, i have known more gay couples that still stay together after so long, faithfully standing by each other than the normal straight couples. Let just say. out of 10 gay couples i known, 8 of them are still loving each other faithfully while outta 10 straight couples that i know, only 2 or 3 of them are married and the rest either split up or ended up in adultery.

 

Of course, this statistic is based on my own circle of friends, you can argue that i might have lousy unfaithful friends, well, whatever. I have nothing to say to that. But i am not suggesting that gays are more faithful than straights. I just want to point out the fact that not gays are as philandering as what

“aaron says so” said. (damn, i really feel silly typing out that name)
I think i have said enough. You may dislike this post, but seriously, i dont care. If you want to judge me and this post, you have to do a reality check on your own life first. Pray for God to change your thinking before thinking of changing mine.

And in the meantime, i hope whoever that are affected by all the hurting comments, to be strong and wise to filter out what is not needed.

 

 

Everyone is same but different, everyone deserves to be loved and accepted. Dont feel any smaller or inferior.

Remember this,

You are wonderfully made by the Creator

I really do not agree with condoning the behavior of the 2 judgmental writers above.
I have zero tolerance towards a cyber bully, or bullies in general.

Thus i really see  the need of doing this.

It is up to you to judge me. But whatever it is, bullies should not be hidden behind the screen, they should be publicized.

“Self righteousness is not love, and is not from God.
Stop that hatred for gays, you judge not and leave it to God.
Dont talk laws to me for i am aware, but Jesus taught us about Acceptance, Grace and Love.
– Valencia Lesley

My lips will glorify You Psalms 63:3

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Because of U, i am born again. Let me take this time to thank U. I love you my Jesus.

DrRobiInvite (1)Speaking of which, i cant wait to attend Dr Robi’s svs soon! He is a fantastic speaker and i remember that the seats were always filled up whenever he preaches at CHC. This time round, he will be preaching at Heart of God Church.
If you are keen, you may check out the website of HOG.

 

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Hello.

I think this is what they called it.

Yup.

Regrets.

Vdates June (4)

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Here is my update before June ends, June has been very terrible and i cant wait for it to go away.

As i am typing away, i am wondering to myself who will be the ones reading my updates.
I have absolutely no idea who my readers are. I seem to be writing to myself but i seem to have a small group of readers.

It is a very weird feeling because you do not know who are the ones reading and digesting, who are the ones judging and hating, who are the ones that are waiting for new update posts and etc.

I do not want or need the whole world to read about me, not that i have anyway.
But I just feel that blogging gives me the chance to reminisce  my past events.
It is unlike photos, blogging includes more emotions. Everytime i read back the old entries, i can still feel the emotions behind certain blogposts.

Anyway, June is ending and before it ends, i got myself Cornea Ulcer or Holes in the Eye. -_-

I do not know what exactly is wrong with my left eye but 1 doc say i have Cornea ulcer and the other told me i just have holes in the left eye. Whatever.
No matter what, it requires time to heal by itself and the recent haze did not make it better.

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Was referred  to A&E by my GP and i chose NUH even though it is the further-est for me. I know i make a right choice because the whole experience was really worth it.

Over at National University Hospital, the waiting time is so much lesser, the whole hospital is more organized, the staff are more polite and professional. Of course, this isnt any paid advertisement, a hosp do not need that anyway.

Starting from the entrance, they took my temperature and was directed to make payment immediately. After payment, i waited for around 10 to 15 mins to speak to a nurse about my condition. Then, i waited around 45mins to see the Doc.

After seeing the Doc, i waited another half an hr to see an Eye specialist. I took around 3 hours in total at NUH, comparing to the 8 to 10 hrs wait at the other hospitals and the recent SGH…i cant be anymore thankful.

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I also want to credit the team at NUH because the MOs were very firm and decisive, they really behave like ‘adults’ and i felt much more secured than seeing the bunch of ‘kiddy doctors’ of you-guess-where.

1 thing that irked me at the hospital was the SAF guys. There was a bunch of SAF guys in green sitting around, with or without injury.

My Mum was limping around while i had a bandage on my eye. It was obvious we needed a seat. At least for my Mum who has difficulty standing up for long lah. However, after much stares  from the Army Boys, the one that gave up his seat for us was a Bangladesh worker.

I wrote this on my FB and have gotten various responses:

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Honestly, you may think i am quarrelsome. You may also think i am a typical woman who likes to bitch but if you are a guy and u have to stoop to my level, you really have to do a reality check on your gender.

I was told by a gentleman that  according to the gentleman’s handbook, a real man would give up his seat to a lady- fat skinny tall or short. She doesnt has to b injured to earn the seat. Of cos, it depends sometimes on the location. A bus or train, or even hospitals.

I am sorry but i am not saying all, (because i still have a  few guy friends who are nice gentlemen) but Singaporean Men, a portion of you guys should really stop blaming Singaporean Ladies for blaming you guys.
We are not perfect but time and again, you guys show to us  that you guys are spoilt and in denial. We are not too picky, but sometimes, some of you are just too spoilt and refuse to admit that you are not acting like a real man.

Of course, we can never force someone to be a gentleman if he doesnt want to, i do understand that being Male is by birth for alot of you, but being a real Man is a choice.

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So yeah, wassup with Mr Harrison in  this case? Arguing with a woman with an injured eye, arguing that the NS men should not give up seats to an injured lady nor a limping elderly.

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Anyway, i better stop before i start to feel angry all over again. It is not my business, i must remind myself  that how low a man behaves IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS!

Later in the week, i received a rather sad news and have felt a little down ever since. But please do not worry for me as i believe that God has see this coming and He has already planned. I just need to be patient and calm while handling my emotions and making the right decision.

I am not talking about r/s problem, because many people naturally relate that a woman can only be sad over romance issues.
This is more than that.

It has been sometime since i last chilled with gf, prolly paying her a visit this weekend?

I miss swimming but damn, my eye is not any better after a week and i am heading back for follow up on Thursday. Till recovery, i am not allowed to swim.

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Working out with Sis in Gym.
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Anyway, speaking of which, the Haze is really better this week. My whole family and i were so paranoid because we received news that the PM2.5 will be caught in the lungs and might develop into cancer cells and etc. I do not care if it is true but if anything, i rather be safe than sorry.

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IMG_20130621_3Lol, all covered up because my eye cant take the haze, too.

N95 was out of stock during the peak of the whole Haze Saga (PSI at 400) and i was so Garang enough to Q up for 4 hours at Lot 1 Choa Chu Kang’s Unity for just 4 pieces of masks. (i stay in the East -_-)

I can’t believe i did that but yeap, i did. We tried our best to get masks from friends and i was even offered a box at $60 (usual price at $25).

Thanks but no thanks.

I wish i have more sincere friends though.

So, the haze did made my eye condition worse and thank God that haze is gone but i have too many masks now. Any takers?

Yes, Govt told us to be vigilant as the haze might be back but my office (finally) gave another N95 so i guess i have enough and i can sell or give away. I know NTUC is selling now and everyone can get it conveniently, so i am just saying.

Ok, i think i have ntg much to write as of now. You can take a look at some pictures of myself

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super sinful supper after so long, with the cg.

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Ok, the last picture is super random and i am super random and I am hungry and i feel like lunching already. Till my next post, be blessed!

The departure of Eng Han

Hello.

I believe the people who keeps coming into my blog for my ex Cell Group Leader Mr Chew Eng Han have been waiting for some juicy inside news and thus the crazy amount of browsing and etc.

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I am sorry but i have no juicy news for anyone here. I am disgusted by the amount of Kaypos googling on Eng Han at this time. I cant help feeling very very disgsuted.

Last week, Eng Han announced his departure from City Harvest Church and has caused commotion and  gotten many reactions from different people.

Needless to say, many people blamed him for his decision and called him a traitor.

Of course, there are people applauding his courage and encourage him to stand up and speak the truth.

While the CHC or Pastor Kong haters were rooting for him as if he is some WP against the PAP.
It seems political and while it isnt his intention to,  media and immature people made situation seems bad.

From Day 1, he has never for once asked me to leave Church, he has never ask anyone to leave CHC.
There was no intention of sowing discord and all he told me was that he is still my friend and i can still contact him should i need any pastoral help.

I am just a small fry in church, i am less than 5 yr old in Church, yet i have seen and went through the biggest drama of Singapore – in my very own Church.

Is it tiring? yes it is, no doubt abt that.

Afterall, isnt a Church a peaceful and drama-free place?

Well, i feel it depends on how you see it. A person’s perspective and attitude towards every little thing matters more than his or her surroundings.
I feel that my family and i really benefited from Church and its leaders, ministries and people.

For Eng Han to make such a major decision, i cant be anymore sure that he has used sufficient time to consider all the consequences, pros and cons. For a spiritual man like him, prayers is a definite thing, at all time, during or even before the decision was announced.

For those  that judged him and called him traitor, i really really feel extremely offended and saddened.
I understand the wrath one might have because of this decision, it doesnt help when it come at such a weird timing, just weeks before the 2nd half of the trial.

I felt shocked and intimidated too ( initially).

But lets calm down and respect his decision. We have been very judgmental for the longest time. One very very bad point about human race is that we judge all the time and we decide for people what kinda decision they should make.
We like to manipulate and control others’ minds and make them make the decision we ourselves desire.

It is his decision, why cant we be gracious about it and respect his decision and leave it as that?

Are judgments really necessary? Frankly, it doesnt matter. Your views and judgments DOES NOT MATTER.
We are believers arent we?
The very basic of God’s teachings, have we forgotten all about it?

Our views and judgments DOES NOT MATTER, what matters is God’s view. So you shouldnt be pointing fingers at Eng Han and calling him names because that is purely YOUR VIEW, God doesnt view him as a traitor. God doesnt label people that way.

It definitely angered me that people are calling him names because Eng Han is my friend, i respect whatever he did, and whatever decision he makes because till date, he has not done any shameful thing in my opinion.

Likewise, those that do not know what is going on really shouldnt start insulting the Church and the Pastors just because of Eng Han’s announcement. Again, leave it to GOD will ya?

As the story unfolds, God is also unfolding TRUTH. We have waited for years, y not just be patient and wait on for the whole story?

There are ALOT of things happening, ALOT of information, ALOT of unexpected details at this moment.

I do not want to judge or take sides, i will not say anything because ntg is official and i am not a spokesperson for anyone. My knowledge is limited.
If you are really concern, wait patiently, it is only weeks to the next trial, more will be revealed along the way.

Anyway, a person who is really concerned will not slander anyone before anything is official.

At this moment, i hope that the people who knows Eng Han personally can stand with him and his family, it is really really tough for them.
He is prepared to be judged before announcing this decision but he doesnt deserve all the criticisms. Nobody deserves that.

As for me, i still stand by the

1) Crossover mission, nobody says that Crossover is fake, it is genuine and we saved lives.
Nothing is gona  change that fact.

2) The Church is still doing good deeds and Pastors are still giving their best in their preachings.

3) Many were saved and City Harvest Church really helped alot of people and i am one of them.

As for Eng Han, he has done his part for the Church the last 17 years and especially now. I truly feel for him and i pray nothing but Fairness and Justice for him. He is no longer my Cell Group leader but he is my Friend and Mentor forever.

To all who read  this space, lets all be patient and walk through this with prayers and discernment.

Through this incident, i guess i realize once again  that i took things for granted for the longest time. Nothing is forever, and when things like this happen, i realize that i have  never needed more discernment than now…
However, i strongly believe that this is not an issue of taking sides nor staying/leaving CHC. If you are concern for the parties involved, pray for them. Wish them well.

As for yourself and even myself, guess we have to discern which direction is spiritually beneficial for us, which direction is God’s path for us and will build our growth.

Instead of being a kaypo, instead of asking what happen constantly and finger pointing, all we can do is to be still and Let God.
Oh, i have alot of you texting me asking what happened, what church EH is going next, this and that. May i say, these are all redundant to know at this moment. So please dont ask me such qns anymore.

Lets keep the Church and  the 6 in prayers. Especially for the bbg group of friends, may God bless us with utmost favour this period.

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