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Vdates June 2 (Featuring my first Flea)

Yawns. It is Monday and it is hazy…

IMG_20130613_6Hi Everybirdie~

The air is smelling like dead rats ever since the haze attacked us from Sumatra last Fri. I really do not know when will Indonesia stop giving its neighbours haze. It is really frustrating and i really think it is legit for everyone to skip work and school due to the crazy air pollution (that is if the Govt decides to be kind to its people)

Ok, that is my first rant of the day. I am peckish because my eye hurts and my nose is blocked. I am tired and above all, it is Monday.

Anyway,updates about last week. Work and Work and Work and then met gf for a mtg with Stacy. Glad that everything is on track and i am still praying for God’s guidance on each step we are taking.

GF came over to my place for awhile before heading home. It was Flea the next day and my family and i have to wake up early.

As usual, we overslept but still able to make it in time (just not that early).
The better spaces were all snatched up, but is ok, the space we  got is not too bad as well.
We reached there at around 10.30am.

It was our 1st flea and we were quite lost and things gt quite outta ctrl in the beginning. We lost our cool and poor Mum has to endure with our peckish attitude. 😦
Having said that, i really appreciate her presence even though she keeps nagging. -_-

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The venue for the flea was at Lucky Plaza Level 6. Oh, it was organized by ForFleaSake.
Honestly, the place is full of dust and it is rather dirty. It is new and obviously not renovated, the cement floor was rough and full of dirt.
The table provided was not fantastic and shaky but we can still make do with it.
The 2 chairs provided were obviously not enough but i guess we can bring our own stools the next time.

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I am glad Sis and i made  good preparation in terms of A&P and Marketing, with the nice signages.
When we were setting up our booth, we realised that our booth did stand out from some of the rest because of the efforts we put in. I am not saying this with arrogance but i thought is good to credit ourselves because of the hardwork put in. *pats* on the shoulders. 😛

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our e-poster, we gave out all the 50 goodie bags!

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However, 1 thing good about the venue is that it is air conditioned, thus it make up quite abit for the dirt and all.
At least it is not under the hot sun isnt it?

Our neighbours are fine except for the 1 opposite us. Sorry but i have to rant about this neighbour and i have tagged this post with all the relevant tags, i hope they see this post and reflect.

Frankly, i dont really bother about making friends or sucking up to others because i really feel that is fake. Of course, i will smile and greet each other lah. I am not that rude.
I know of those people who compliment each other, chatting up like as if they knew each other for decades, exchanging phone numbers and all during such event.
But i am just not like that. Neither is the sister.

For us, if we click w you, we click w u. If you find us meeting your expectation as being your friends, then well, great (& thanks!)! :))
If not, we can just dont talk and mind our own business.

Back to the neighbour opposite us….

They arrived later than us and  the moment they arrived, they made hell lotsa noise. 1 of them was playing music loudly from the ipad and the other 3 were talking aloud. No offence but i almost thought i was in a foreign country or MRT trains (you know how the mrt train is like nowadays right? hope you get the drift)

I actually shook my head at the loud music, NOT with approval but with a bit of disgust. 1 of them noticed and felt displeased.
I really cant be bothered because i really think it is very inconsiderate to disturb others with your loud music.
There are many people who does that in the train and it is equally disturbing because honestly, not everybody wants to listen to your PSY’s Gentleman.

As the time goes by, they started saying aloud abt how cheap we were selling our stuff.
(Yes, i sold most of my stuffs at $5 each. Of cos, there are some items that are priced at $10 and above)

Though no names mentioned by them but there wasnt anybody around us selling as low as $5 like us.
So…who else can they be bitching?

It goes like that (in mandarin) “I wonder why some people would sell as low as $5 in this kinda place”

My heart was like “bitchplease, this kinda place? what place? it is Lucky Plaza, not ION. The shops inside Lucky Plaza itself were selling $5 and lower for a piece of new top – yes i recced and checked. Moreover, this is a flea. Most impt of all, it is really none of ur business how much we are selling our stuff ”

Ok people, so you know, if you are holding your flea there, just take note. The crowd is mostly our friends from Philippines, they prefer friendlier prices starting from as low as $1. I am serious. Anything above $5 is considered pricey. I guess it is the location and competitions.

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The very very cute helper/CFO of the day. MUM! 😛

Well, i came up with the idea of selling 3 for $5 and yes, our neighbour ridiculed us in their sarcastic manners by shouting across to the air directing at us. Then they started peeping over at our stall, that dude who played loud music started studying my posters, 1 of them looked over at our display and rolled her eyes, the rest just keep checking how much we are selling.

Really, i find all that uncalled for. I was busy thinking of how to sell off everything i brought to the flea as i really do not want to see  them anymore.
Maybe i am selling them at ridiculously low price but it is better than keeping them at home that fetches Zero value.

I have to be honest, most of my dresses which i bought at $30/pc and above were sold off at $2 that day.
If you think i dont feel the ache, nah is not true. I do.

But as i mentioned, those dresses were pre owned, some pre loved which i do not wear anymore. Despite the good quality and condition, i basically do not touch them anymore, so it is pointless to leave them at home with me.

By noon, almost all the stall owners start to feel the same as me ( i think?). Initially, there was no 3 for $5 except for our booth, there was no 1 pc for $2 either. Guess every1 realise that prices need to be adjusted and thus by around 2pm, everyone is selling at the same price.

Needless to say, the neighbour opposite me who ridiculed me, followed my pricing all the way. Funny part is, they actually went to print posters like what we did.

No doubt, business is all about copying and seeing who can improvise and does better. I am fine with what they did. But i am not fine with their insults.

If it is me, i wouldnt copy some1 i insulted or ridiculed. 

It doesnt make sense.

I wouldnt check out my competitors’ sales and roll my eyes at their items either, there is something call RESPECT. By doing all that, it is not that you do not respect others, i think you do not respect yourselves and your items too.

Jealousy speaks alot about your self esteem. Enuff Said.

Then we had lunch, the chicken rice opp the flea was awesome and Mum ate that. Sis and i tried Jollibee. Despite the raves about it, we only find   the fries nice. Chicken is very MEH. Spag is MEH. You may try and q for approx 20mins if you really want to try but i am saying that it is not worth it. Even the chicken from the chicken rice stall opposite is more  crispy than the chicken at Jollibee. 😡

We continued to sell and 1 hr + before we close, we sold the items cheaper than ever. Everyone else is shouting for $1/pc.
Speaking of cheap items in BKK? Bitchpls, just pop to fleas in Singapore.

Of course, as i mentioned, venue plays a part. I am intending to get another venue for the next flea to test out different market and audiences.
Happy as some of the customers actually turned back with their friends and they recommended us to their friends. Some even left their numbers and requested for us to sms them on our next flea. Sis was good with PR and she managed to make many customers happy.
The neighbour wasnt too pleased and kept looking over with some hatred in their eyes. Even Justin (a friend of sis who came over to visit in the noon) felt the hatred targeted at us. We were like...Oh Whatever.

Maybe it is God’s arrangement. Maybe He just want us to wrk harder, maybe He knows that we are fighters not losers. We fight with our spirits and strive to do better and not crap with our mouths  and stare with our eyes.

At the end of the day, we cleared our space and threw away all the rubbish. The space was clean and Mum said that we need to behave like civilized people and not leave our trash around.
Our neighbour opposite, on the other hand, left tons of boxes around, with plenty of trash.

Speaking of being civilized….I think Mum really taught us well 😛 She has been asking me to keep my cool because we prayed before we made the 1st business of the day, and Mum said that Jesus is watching and He will not shortchange us.
Mummy is really cute. 🙂

We made quite abit from the flea, considering that the items sold were so extremely cheap. I am happy that we are able to get rid of things that we no longer wears, but they are no trash. They are all in very good condition and i am glad that the new owners of our clothes appreciate them more than us.

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It was a tiring day but it was really good experience. We lost abit of cool towards each other but alls good.

Uncle fetched us home and Mum and i ended the night with very sinful Macs and a Leslie Cheung Movie while Sis went out with her bf.

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It is the first time after countless weeks that i am able to sleep straight away upon lying on the bed. I was so tired. -_-

Then, another week starts today and i am still not very awake. Time flies and July is approaching, how scary.

On a side note, my gym and workout regime is doing me good, i will post pics soon, the arms are more toned and boy, i love what i see in the mirrors! :p

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Remember these 2 dresses?
They were sold and the buyers really HEART the dresses vvvv much.
Sis managed to get another new piece of the Black Crochet Laced. We are selling it at our next Flea.
It is so lovely and has that wonderful slimming and flattering effects!
Fits UK 6 to UK8.

Stay tuned for our next flea!

Alright, i will y,plan for another flea in July, do stay tuned for the next flea as there are many Brand new items waiting to be owned!

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Till then, God bless! 🙂

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BFF?

 Friends are just people that God send at different phases of your life.
People that you need and people who need u at different chapters of life.

Some stay while some leave, some forgive some bear grudges, some for life and some for season.
They have to go some how, for some reason only God knows why.

If one wants to hate, we cant control, if one wants to leave, by all means.

I trust U

It is with heavy heart that i write this. The 2 weeks since last week was really hectic.

My leader going for the trial and before the 2 weeks of trial ends, my Mum fell and got admitted to Hospital.

I am worried but i know Jesus is with her.

Despite being worried and really weary from all the happenings and stress, i have peace in my heart because i know Jesus is here with us.

Please keep my Mum in prayers.

I am praying for Mummy and also my Church and my leaders.

Dear Lord, U are still on the throne.

We trust you.

Worse things might have happened but because You are with us, we are still safe and breathing.

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City Harvest Church Trial: Auditor’s Knowledge And Approval Central To Case – updated as of 18 May ’13

 Lai confirmed that Sim’s concerns stemmed not from his doubts about the genuineness of the Xtron bond investments, but from possible conflict of interests, given the relationship between Xtron and CHC; it appeared that Baker Tilly did not have an issue with whether the bonds were bona fide.

The use of the building fund for investments, including into Xtron and Firna bonds, was disclosed to the auditor, the board and to executive members, and no concern in relation to this had been raised.

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Credit of source: http://www.citynews.sg

God is with you, Eng Han.

The trial of City Harvest case will continue on Monday.

The court is closed today due to internal event.

Meanwhile, the discerning Christians from all over the world is praying earnestly for our dear leaders.

Had a fruitful meeting with my leader Eng Han last night.

I really salute him.

Having going through tremendous stress in the day, he can still preach to us in the night. (nothing much about the case, focus  is on biblical knowledge and biblical preaching, if you ask)

Such an amazing professional.

He told me to have constant faith, looks like he knows my weakness before i even say anything.

Yes, i have fears in me (towards my own personal/career matters) and he gave me a rhema word yesterday.

Except that, this time, he specifically speak to me, calling my name.

I feel very very touched.

Thank you Eng Han, God is with you, i am sure.

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Thank you Jesus

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Credits: Jesus Daily

Loyalty in a Relationship

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Just a random thought and i feel like sharing. I did not intend to write about this but i was doing some work when i happened to know about someone (dont ask me who) messaging his ‘mistress’. Needless to say, i am disgusted.

Actually, in any r/s, the most important factor is Trust – they say.

I think the most important factor has to be Honesty and Transparency.

Trust comes from Honesty isnt it?

It is really sad to know that many people are having affair with someone else other than their boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives.
Whats worse is, they actually think it is ‘Okay’ or ‘Alright’ to do so.

I am not gona blog a whole chunk of logics and theories today. Thus i will save on the big reasons of how and why 1 shouldnt betray.

When 2 became 1 ( i am talking about married couples), it is actually expected that 2 separate individuals come together and joined themselves in spirit and soul as one. So if 1 is hurting or betraying another person, it is as well as hurting own-self. If you love your partner as much as you love yourself, why would you hurt him/her? You wouldnt because you guys are 1.

Maybe some people don’t understand what i am talking about. Is fine. To make it simpler, i actually think it is pointless to cheat…If you intend to b with someone. Why cheat? If you havent had enough of fun, then stay single? Simple?

But we can never stop people from being selfish isnt it? Many of those that cheat are just greedy people that are never satisfied with whatever they already have or owned. They do not want to let go of their comfort zone but they couldnt stay disciplined to that comfort zone.

In short, they are just self centered. There is nothing one can do about such people or Betrayals.

So, when Betrayals occur, what do you do? What would you do?

There are only 2 ways – Give up and move on OR Forgive and stay on.

Actually, there is another way which is rarely mentioned – Forgive and Move on.

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To give up and move on –  sounds like it is the easiest but it is also the hardest. To give up on a r/s that you cherished so much, a r/s that you spent time and effort for, isnt that simple as it sounds. Moreover, it is written in your Marriage Vow –  “Till Death do us part” 
If betrayal isnt anywhere near Death, does that mean a couple should not part?
Afterall, it is written in the Vow, and a Vow is a Vow because it isnt a promise.
Promises can be broken but not a vow.
Do we honor the Vow and hang on to the r/s and forget about parting then?

Now, Forgiving and staying in the r/s tt is already stained, is a huge responsibility and when i say Forgive, it means you are ready to start afresh and not think about the betrayal that once happened. No matter how tough the situation might arise in future, you can never mention about the past. You forgive with your whole heart and you bear no jealousy, no doubt, no hatred, no anger, no hurt ever…You are not to be reminded of what happened before, you are not to become paranoid because of what that happened before. You basically start everything anew.
So, is it that easy to forgive and stay on? Not for me.

The last choice that is left is to Forgive and move on..We all know that Forgiveness is the hardest. But perhaps by moving on, you will hate lesser?
Besides, have you heard that even if you forgive, you do not have to stay with that person? You simply forgive for your own sake, but you leave the person for the best of both persons.
I am not sure about you. For me, i left my ex boyfriend not because i chose to but I thank him and i thank God for the breakup because God knows how long more i might stay on. The betrayals and abuse he gave is horrendous, really not very easy for me to forgive.
To be honest, i dont even know if i still hate him, he is like a stranger to me now. But if given the chance to meet again, i rather not. LOL.
But by leaving each other, i realise that it is really easier to forgive, perhaps this is why some breakups is really meant for the best for 2 parties.
Of course, thank God we werent married, if not, i will really be in dilemma.

Because i am a Christian and Marriage is Sacred to me, i really honor what thats written and what Jesus said. Although yes, i might not be perfect and i might not have honored everything that was written, but i really try my best to. And for a Marriage, if there is no transparency and loyalty, then why bother to get married?

So, honestly, after seeing that someone msging his ‘mistress‘ just now, i do not know what to say. It seems like the whole world is doing such thing and thinking it is alright to do so.

GF told me her friend cheated on her bf with another man. That ‘another man’ is married and anticipating his 2nd child. Isnt that heartbreaking?

A friend of mine forgave his wife after his wife cheated on him and decided to accept the wife again.

More examples which i really cant be bothered to list.

The world is so warped that i cant resist asking myself  “which man (or woman) is really loyal to their partner nowadays?”

It is so sad to even think of human beings in that way right…but thats how the world is now. Sadly.

Some women i talked to, told me that they knew what was going on with their straying husbands but they chose to ‘close one eye’ – they chose  to pretend that they do not know as long as their husbands come back to them, come back  home after each scandal that happened outside.

I feel it is ridiculous but well, some people can just do that.

Some men i spoke to, told me that there will be no excuse to betrayals and thus they will chose to divorce or break up with their partner no matter what. They added “i am a man, i have my pride”
Now, thats how fuck up most men are, their pride and ego is everything. I am not condemning all the men here ok, i am just saying most or some of the men that i knew of. Do you dare to tell me you have never hear that from a man before?

Why should a man be expected to fool around and be looked up to and why is it when a woman do the same thing, they are being labelled as sluts?

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I dont know about you but i guess i wouldnt pretend that i dont know anything because that isnt me. But if i ever break up with someone over betrayal issue, it wouldnt be because of my pride. It would most prolly means i cant go on anymore and going on will be painful and once Trust is gone, everything will just go downhill. I cant say i will definitely forgive but i will try, but to stay on in the r/s, it is impossible.

Thus i think i can never be married right now because i still cant honor “till Death do us Part”, because in my world, i honor “till Betrayals do us Part”. I do not expect my partner to be flawless, i expect my r/s to be flawless.

And when i say “Flawless”, it doesnt mean that the r/s is full of roses, choc and sweet moments without argument or whatnot. Flawless to me, simply means – ZERO betrayal.

Sounds easy but it is really not easy in the society now. Being in a world full of temptations, having advance technology that help speed up the process of getting in touch with your temptations, one can really stray easily without even realising.
(In the past, you need a phone to page your fling and your fling has to call you back and all. Now, you just need to wechat or whatsapp FOR FREE somemore, and thats all! Hassle Free and easy to manage, just delete the message history. Or if you like, you can even find some potential whorish looking women that looks like they are out for fun, or some desperate dudes that are hunger for sex while the wife is expecting over FB. All you need to do is ‘POKE’, FB poke i mean. But it doesnt take long for that FB poke to turn into a real ‘poke’)

Actually…I do not know why people still believe in True Love.  (opps, did alot of you just roll your eyes at this sentence? lol)

Okok, i do believe that True Love might still exist in some corners of this earth, but i cant help being skeptical.

But anyway. Tts not the point. lol.

So…what do you think you would do if your partner cheats on you?

Trust and Honesty, do you expect these as basic of the r/s or are they bonuses in a r/s?

And lastly, to all Adulterers and Betrayers, this verse is for you.
Dont worry, it isnt hard to understand and you need not be a Christian to understand.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Matthew 7:12

Feel free to email me to share if you have anything to share! my mailbox is valenciafaithz.z@gmail.com 🙂

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