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Acceptance.

Approximately 15 minutes ago, i was very depressed.

I was asking for a favour from my sister and although it is not unexpected that she turned me down, i still feel pricked because probably i still have hope in me (that perhaps she will show some care by saying Yes)

However,  she turned me down flatly and even say things like “you said you can do it alone”

Sure, of course i can do it alone.

I am doing it alone, arent i doing it alone from day 1?

I know that nobody is obliged to help me out. It is a dream that both of us wanted and since the day she backed out, i am still in this dream.
It is fine, i wanted it.

But despite the fact that she isnt in this with me, i still think alot of how to share this dream with her, should this dream harvest into something fruitful.

But i guess, that is just one sided.

I guess what i do not understand is not about why she reject my plead for help.

I do not understand why as blood tied kins, how can someone so close (that came out from the same tummy) is able to feel indifferent when it comes to rejecting a favour asked. She feels nothing, AT ALL.

She just threw me a sentence “i dont feel like”

Now, that is very hurting.

I would offer my help with all i can even if she says that she is able to do it alone. Is that very stupid or Kay-Poh of me? Should i mind my own business in future?
If i do, i will feel uneasy and selfish, perhaps that is my character. I cannot bring myself to say things like “well u wanted to do it alone, so you do it alone, why are u complaining?”

Because i will feel for the other party, i will know how stressful she is, i will try my best to help even if she does not ask anything from me. I cant bear to see her feeling stressed all alone….

So why cant she do the same for me???

20minutes later, which is now…

I feel much better.

I guess i have only Jesus to thank.

I thought of Him. 

If you have to know, i can share with you.

Look, my belief and faith towards Jesus is strong but my love for Him isnt strong enough……Why would i say that?

Well, I am sure HE is there for me every second and is waiting for me to turn to him and give HIM some attention. But honestly, i didnt.
Most of the time, if i am not busy working and planning out my dream, i am watching some TV drama series.
I only talk briefly to HIM for 5minutes before i sleep and less than a minute when i wake up.
I am sure HE feels as sad as how i feel now….

But if HE were to feel hurt and expect me to be as patient as HIM, HE would have given up on me long ago because i can never be as faithful, i can never give HIM my constant attention.

But HE loves me still. That is unconditional love.  That is Acceptance.

Thus, as i am typing this, i can feel my heart lighten up, feeling much better. This is the 1st time i try thinking of Jesus when i m very depressed and helpless, i am ashamed to even say that this is the 1st time but indeed it is.
In the past, i just allow myself to be sad and wallow in self pity and sadness but this time round, i have too much on my plate to handle, i cant afford to waste time in sadness and insecurity.

I cant be anymore thankful, thank you Jesus, thank you for making me understand that every1 has her flaws, and i have my flaws too.
Most importantly, i cannot and should not expect anyone to be as “helpful” as me, there are things that i cant do too and if anyone expects that i do the same thing and behave the same way as them, i would be unhappy too.

Maybe this lesson is for me to learn – everyone has different character and personality, she might be less helpful but perhaps she is more calm when it comes to arguments. I shouldnt expect of her to be the same as me like how she wouldnt expect me to be the same of her. Maybe i should let go and stop expecting. Somethings can’t be forced but some relationships are destined, we cant change that. Thus we should really learn to Accept.

Thank you God.

Now, you might find that this is silly, but i really did manage to feel better and now i am off to do more constructive things, to plan for my project.

I am not trying to help anyone here but i just need an avenue to pen down my thoughts. I haven been opening up ever since i was told  that i am ill and that i need a shrink…

I might find strength in my Faith, but if you are not a believer and you think that Jesus is like Santa Claus, perhaps you can also see things in another perspective…
There will always be someone that is nicer to you than you know, he or she will accept you unconditionally, it might be your Mum/Dad, your Spouse or Partner? I wouldnt know, but you know, because he/she is the 1st person that came to your mind when i mention this.

However, this person has never once expect the same from you, he/she forgives and loves you even though you are not as nice as them. This world is never fair, quoting my sister “if the world is fair, all fingers will be of the same length”.
While you are upset with others failing your expectations of them, there are people who are equally upset with you but still accepting you… Maybe you would like to do the same, by accepting another person who sin differently as you?

I am just saying. Like i say, i am not even sure if i can help myself because of my illness, i am not so noble to help the world. I just wish to pen down my thoughts and share if i can.

Till the next post, may Love take over all. God Bless`

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Everyone should be accepted. Yes, even Gays.

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I am utterly disappointed once again, with fellow human beings.

Frankly, i am filled with anguish as i type this. I am also tearing while i do this. I do not know how these people can throw stones at others like as if they have the right  to.
I can imagine how sad the lost feels, the gay who confess his fear, his sadness, his extreme depressed soul got tempted to give up his life due to these judgmental comments coming from the ‘Pharisees’ of this era.

I do hope that these ‘Pharisees’  are not believers because i feel really sad seeing their hate messages towards others. If they are believers,  y and how can they say such things? Did they not remember what did Jesus say about acceptance and love?

I thought we have the same God in us, then how is it they can hurt and condemn others without hesitating, without love?

Why should condemnation exist?

I am pasting some printscreens and i am blogging about this because these people used God’s name to judge others.
I am not speaking on behalf of Jesus, but from what i was taught, all people are equal in His eyes, gays or not gays, murderers or not murderers.

We only have to speak the truth. It is indeed written that same sex should not be involved sexually. Well, that is a truth and i will not deny what is written, There are alot more commandments and we were told of no fornication and look at how many people in the world engages in sexual r/s before marriage? Look at the amount of lies from different people, look at the greed of people.

I am not saying we should all sin, i am saying that we sin differently. If we were to judge others, the judging will never stop. I repeat, IT WILL NEVER STOP.

You dont judge others just because they sin differently from you, Aaron Says So and Fan Bonk KeeShame on you 2 that cant let go and keep judging as if you both are perfect. Moreover, who are you to give the verdict of sinning? Who are you?
Having said that, i still do not want to keep labelling Gays as sinners, i said before and i say again, all of us human beings ARE sinners.

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Aaron Say So ·  Top Commenter · National University of Singapore
(Wonderul education qualification, but i am sad that education actually makes one stupid sometimes)

this Valencia Lesley is saying we all have to respect thieves and robbers, because Jesus is loving. 
So what if Jesus is loving? It is written, “brush off the dust from your scandals”. 
– Right, you TOO should be brushed off because you are behaving worse than thief and robber by robbing and stealing respect for the human kinds.
Brush off the dust? Yah, dont just quote part of a verse or scripture from a bible and take words out of context, you want to talk about bible, here is a verse for you –

Matthew 7:1-3 King James Version (KJV)

7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.

And he mentioned:
inside the pub, gay “a” who just get to know gay “b” for a few minutes, was rubbing his private part on gay “b” ‘s leg. gay “b” cheekily looks at the camera and says “he is rubbing me”. Come on, what is this? Is sex the only thing in a gay mind? I’m a man and I love woman, can I go around rubbing my private part on strangers? That gay inside the video even proudly declare he had over 50 sex partners. What over 50 sex partners? where is the humanity? Aren’t gay supposed to be faithful to one another? I’m sure if I walk into any gay pubs, most of the gays will be delighted to entertain me and hopefully have sex with me. Come on, think carefully, are you comfortable to have these gays mixing with your children? 
If you have to insist that gays are philandering, it just goes to show how ignorant you are. I can give you a list of places to go, to see how straight men and women behave too.
Maybe you were at those places before too, or perhaps you should try going sammyboy forum to find out how some straight people behave. Alternatively, go to any club and you might be lucky enough to catch some action going on.
Whats with the youtube link? You want to post links, i can give u 1482482334 links of how SOME straight people behaves in different clubs all over the world.Cmon, dont say such thing as Gays should be loyal and faithful to earn respect. EVERYONE SHOULD BE faithful.The raising divorce rate of the normal couples, do we judge that and say because divorce rate is high, we shouldnt get married?
Please do not suggest such silly bullshit about adultery, it might happen to anyone and it might be you or me or any other straight person. Hope you are a virgin or that you only sleep with 1 person in your entire life. Clapclap*
Lastly, you would rather spend time helping the poor? You have to choose who to help? Is that genuine love? Then i would choose to help who i want to help in the future and declare proudly to others that i am so helpful because i help the poor, and only the poor. While on the other hand, i type furiously behind the keyboard and judge the gays and secretly want them to die.
BRAVO. That is SO KIND of you. Maybe you can also come up with a list of people you would want to help and check off the ones that you personally detest which Jesus loves. Please do not argue with me on this because even when we deny Jesus, HE still chooses to love us. This is a fact, HE doesnt choose who to help and who not to help? Hello? If you want solid Truth from the bible since you love quoting, here it is, TRUTH, you like TRUTH right, you get it:

1 John 4:10

New International Version (NIV)

10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

1 John 4:19 New International Version (NIV)

19 We love because he first loved us.

And despite that you keep saying/judging  that the gays reject God and all, too bad but God still loves them.

Ephesians 2:8 

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,

As for you, do you think you abide in God? I would love to think you DO NOT, but i let God do the judging. But by seeing the verses and WHAT IT IS WRITTEN, i really feel you do not know God. For God is love and if you do not love, you do not know Him.

1 John 4:16 

So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us.
God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.

1 John 4:7-21

New International Version (NIV)

God’s Love and Ours

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of Godand knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.

THERE IS NO FEAR IN LOVE, PERFECT LOVE CAST OUT ALL FEAR. By writing all those scary judgmental stuff, you are creating fear and i dont know how you can do that in the name of God. Put it simply, if Jesus is here today, He wouldnt do what you are doing.

GOD WILL NEVER PUT ANYONE DOWN.

Please understand that you and i are human, we are not supposed to judge madly about whoever’s sexual preference is, and etc. We can tell them what is written and stop at there, afterall, it is their choice and God gives us freedom of choice, Who are you to force your choice on others?
Lastly, i dont think so, nope. Please dont be so narcissitic to that extent, what makes you think any gay would want to make out with you.
Take a look in the mirror before saying things so loudly and proudly, i almost thought that sentence came from Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.
I know you are super in love in yourself, good for you.
And yes, i am comfortable with my kids mixing with nice people, Gays or not.
I wud b worry if my kids mix with the philandering straight people too.
It is all about the character of the individual and i will never categorize anyone as BAD or UNFAITHFUL just because of their sexual preference.
It is 2 diff thing. I would be worried if my kid mixes ard with a mean judgmental person, like yourself.
And who knows how much porno you MIGHT watch. Opps, did i just judge lik you did, i am sorry if i did.
Anyway, my name is Valencia, not “THIS Valencia”, i do not add any silly nick infront or behind my name. Whereas you seem to deem everything you said as Truth because YOU SAY SO and you have to  insist in your name, i doubt anything else can go into your judgmental one sided brain. So, WHATEVER, if You Say So.

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I am STILL insisting that Gays are human beings and we ALL have human rights as long as we are human beings. We should ALL be respected.
I am seeing this world as a whole not because i am perfect, i am not perfect. I still cant hold my anger towards people sometimes, i get jealous at times too. I am not flawless and nobody is. Thus instead of being self righteous and judge others, i rather believe that everyone is the same, despite status nor monetary value. We come as dust, we leave as dust. Here i am talking about respect for all human kinds. We need respect, every individual.
I wanted to delete this blogpost and i actually wrote this days ago, i was still thinking if i should publish this as this topic is so subjective and debatable,
It is not worth the time and effort as this problem will never go as long as i dont know when. But i really cant contain it within myself and see these people ‘bullying’ the Gays, I personally dont think anyone has the rights to do that.
I was being reprimanded and lectured by many many people the other time i stood up to speak up for the Gays. Most of the times, i was told that i am a Christian, i need to represent God and be strict with what is in the Bible.
I do not know if i am going against God, but i have acknowledged that it is written that individuals of the same sex should not be involved. I am not painting a nice picture and being a hypocrite like what Fan Bonk Kee was suggesting above. I know what is written. I know they are laws.
I Love my Belief, i Love God and i really really respect what was taught to me.
BUT it is also a fact that Jesus accepts all kinds of people. He doesnt discriminate and condemns. He told us what is good for us, and He leave the choice to us. I still believe that and i believe He loves us despite any situation.
I know this post will anger alot of people and i know it will definitely offend a group of Christians. I am sorry. I cant be self righteous for this matter, i cant blame nor point fingers to blame Gays. If you cant accept me or this post, too bad.
I cant stress enough on how SOME Christians turn very self righteous as time goes by. They feel that they are God, they forbid any freedom of choice and speech. I wouldnt wish to be like that.
Besides, we are supposed to learn to accept, i am still learning hard. If we do not accept, who will? God want us to accept, to love, to help,
By shutting people you dislike and detest out, how will they ever know who God is? Isnt that too rigid? Jesus does not only mixes with the good, instead, He mixes with the saddest, worst people.
Again, i emphasize, i am in no way saying Gays are saddest  or worst people. I have always been seeing everyone as human being, not an object categorized by his or her sexual preference.
And frankly, if you ask me if i will want my kids to be Gays or Lesbians? My answer is No. I am not being hypocrite, i just cant bear to see my son or daughter get bullied in future. The society now does not recognise human rights, there are too many people judging. I worry for their well being,
And yes, i would rather they are straight because that is what is deemed as ‘normal’ in this society, and fine, i admit that my belief says so too.
But i am sure i will still love my children very much because they are my children and nothing changes that fact. Same as God, we are His children, i will never believe  that HE will hate us because of the choice we made.
I will accept and respect my kids no matter what.

Just to add, i have known more gay couples that still stay together after so long, faithfully standing by each other than the normal straight couples. Let just say. out of 10 gay couples i known, 8 of them are still loving each other faithfully while outta 10 straight couples that i know, only 2 or 3 of them are married and the rest either split up or ended up in adultery.

 

Of course, this statistic is based on my own circle of friends, you can argue that i might have lousy unfaithful friends, well, whatever. I have nothing to say to that. But i am not suggesting that gays are more faithful than straights. I just want to point out the fact that not gays are as philandering as what

“aaron says so” said. (damn, i really feel silly typing out that name)
I think i have said enough. You may dislike this post, but seriously, i dont care. If you want to judge me and this post, you have to do a reality check on your own life first. Pray for God to change your thinking before thinking of changing mine.

And in the meantime, i hope whoever that are affected by all the hurting comments, to be strong and wise to filter out what is not needed.

 

 

Everyone is same but different, everyone deserves to be loved and accepted. Dont feel any smaller or inferior.

Remember this,

You are wonderfully made by the Creator

I really do not agree with condoning the behavior of the 2 judgmental writers above.
I have zero tolerance towards a cyber bully, or bullies in general.

Thus i really see  the need of doing this.

It is up to you to judge me. But whatever it is, bullies should not be hidden behind the screen, they should be publicized.

“Self righteousness is not love, and is not from God.
Stop that hatred for gays, you judge not and leave it to God.
Dont talk laws to me for i am aware, but Jesus taught us about Acceptance, Grace and Love.
– Valencia Lesley

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