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Vdate – What a long hiatus! 2014

IMG_20140112_18Happy 2014!!! Although i am really almost a month late for the greeting.

Yeap, it has been quite sometime since i last blogged. A month of being missing in action might be the norm for most people but looking back, i used to blog weekly, if not, bi weekly! Goodness! I am hoping that i am not turning lazier but the fact that i have to convince myself i am not….
Ok, anyway, let’s just say i am busier with new stuffs and i have to commit myself to the more important things.

I was thinking what i should blog about since most people usually would do a flashback on 2013  or coming up with a list of 2014 resolutions.
I guess i do not fancy the latter so perhaps i will just do a SHORT flashback on 2013 because honestly, i cant really remember much of what happened in 2013. (Maybe i do, but there are alot of things that i have chosen to forget)

So… let’s see…

In Year 2013,

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I am with God and never leave HIM in anyway. I am still rooted in a very nice spiritual family – BBG.
To others, they might think that BBG is unlike the Church i used to go but i am very sure this is the place God wants me to be in.
Thank you God, i believe you are moulding me in Your way and blessing me in Your way too. 

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I am closer to my family of course. My Mum, my Sister, my Aunt and all. However, it wasnt really a good year for us, Mum was hospitalized for her weak knee and Sis and i have to visit her daily and took care of the house. Now, dont u go judging us. It is really NOT easy to do all the chores that Mum does. You know it perfectly well unless you have a family of your own.
Well, good thing is, Mum recovered and her being her, she is strong enough to look pass the fact that she is ageing though she can be rather negative at times. But alls well.
Sis and i faced the biggest challenge ever as we fought like crazy. We really felt very sad and bad that period of time, we have done everything we could to reconcile and in the end, she had to move out to cool down for a period of time… But thank God, she came back and she came back with an open mind and thank God, she is more kind and considerate this time round.
But all in all, i am just thankful that my family members are safe and sound, healthy and good.

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I guess this section has to be the shortest. One word – Mediocre.
There is slight pay increment, there r some benefits here and there and i am thankful for all that.
However, the politics here is worse than Workers Party vs PAP.
So..i dont know. Basically i dont know what else to describe about my work except that i have a change of Boss and the current Boss gave a more detailed planning and direction for all the lost sheeps who were under poor management previously.
That is perhaps 1 good thing and yah, more stress might be on the way.
I have also started planning, doing something for my personal plan. I went overseas, i met up with relevant professionals.
However, due to budget constraint and my ill discipline, the plan was held back for very long. It is not helping when i was kinda timid and i was always lacking the courage to pursue what i want. But in year 2014, i swear i will just go ahead with all that i have on hand and do what i can and let God do the rest! Amen.

Relationship
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This must be the most exciting topic in this post. (at least to me and John? lol)
After being alone for 2 freaking long years (i have never been single for that long) I am in a relationship again.
To be honest, previously, i lost all faith in r/s (i know i say this many times and i always end up with some jerk after saying  that but really, this time it is different)
If you follow my blog, you would know. If not, you can read here and here. If you are too lazy to read or find out, let’s just say, i was really not intending to get hitched in any way. Yes i did hope for it secretly but really, on the scale of 10, my desire to be alone was 8.

I have hurt and i have been hurt alot of times and each  time after a break up, i would tell myself that i want to be alone because i am oh so jaded and i have lost all faith. But, you know, each time i say that, i was secretly hoping that someone will come around and show me that there is hope in this world, i was secretly hoping for someone that will appear in my life and show me what loyalty is all about, someone that is different, that will view loyalty as the most important factor in a r/s, someone that respect, that loves, that knows Love is not just a feeling but a Decision. (i actually blogged about this sometimes back, please read it here)

However, after the last r/s in 2011, i have decided firmly that such person does not exist, either that or he prolly does exist but he will never be mine. (yea, that’s negative but you cant blame me, i have suffered f-up r/s for at least 10yrs and having said that, i am not saying that i was never at fault, i believe no 1 party should bear all blames for failures for r/s)

Then, someone appeared in my life silently, normally, with an add in Facebook. John, i think you must be grinning at this.
Look, i mentioned that i will write about us once things are more stable and etc. Thus i wont go into much details now but hopefully that day will come and i can write about really fruitful news and hopefully we can move on further to another stage of the r/s by then.
Anyways, John was my schmate in Chung Cheng High Main (secondary school) and i never liked him back then.
He was just someone that my then- best friend dated. Other than that, all i knew of him was that he represented the sch for table tennis and apparently he was good at what he did, he studied in the special stream class and he was good with soccer. Thats all i knew about him and i had absolutely no interest in knowing more about him back then. Not that he wasnt attractive or anything but i was really immersed with Counterstrike and was more interested in friends outside school.

So anyway, that’s how we initially knew about each other. We hardly spoke and i think the only time i said something to him back then was an insult, he told me i called him ‘bastard’ and i shant talk much abt it.AHAH!
After 10 over years (got or not ar?), i duno how God work His miracle, John saw a pretty me (AHEM) on FB and he added me. LOL, ok la, he added me cos he knew it was me and also because i am pretty can? LOL

From then on….. i shall save e details for next time. HAHA!

But i really wana say, since the day we started dating, i have never regretted because he shows me everything i want in a man, everything i ask from God and we are on the same page in almost all things. We possess the same perspective most of the time, our moral values tally with each other, we admire each other and are very attracted to each other, we acknowledge that God is the One that is in the center of the r/s and honestly, the list goes on.

“Wah, this is long but seriously, i really really want this to work out as much as you do John. “

We are working very hard towards it and thank God for this surprise blessing, both us are grateful and we pray that we will always cherish this r/s the way we do now. Though we are really just mths together, some even say we are in the honeymoon period, both of us really want this honeymoon period  to last and till date, we still feel very happy upon seeing each other and we will always make up after each fight with  rational minds. Hope this continue and although we can never guarantee the future, i hope nothing ever changes because John really closed the chapter of 2013 for me wonderfully.

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I started seeing a psychiatrist and i am talking to a psychologist too. Well, ntg can be concluded as of now but at least i am under control for whatever i am suffering from. Many people view Depression or Mental illness as something shameful. I was one of those people. I always think that only the weak people will admit that they are depressed.
For me, it is even tougher as i am expected by the world to walk out of any crappy mental problem just because i claim  that God is real.
But i have made peace with myself and accepted that i might be stressed, and i have issues in me that might be unresolved. I believe God created professional help for people like me. Thus i am happy i have started talking to someone and on the path of getting my healthy mind back.
I also stated working out and i have lost weight, i have put on weight. It no longer matters i guess, as long as i am healthy. In the later part of 2013, i started to slack off. I am determined to return to the Gym soon (cut me some slack, CNY coming! 😛)

Wealth
Looking good, looking good. But can be better! HUAT LA 2014! Especially after spending that $400+ on a tooth. It wasnt even serious op, it was just a normal tooth being plucked out. FML.

Alright, i hope the above summarized my 2013 generally and it is honestly not short at all. LOL
I have no resolution for 2014 but i do hope that i can be more hardworking, less hot tempered, and more diligent and patient for 2014. I am very happy now. I have the best family, the best bf, the best friends around me and i want to lose none of them. I wish that all of them will be happy and safe everyday. I wish that i can achieve more in my career and hopefully the house that Mum and i wanted will be ours soon 🙂

As i really gtg, i hope the crazy amt of photos i post will make you happy because i am signing off!
Happy Chinese  New Year and may all of you be blessed with Peace and Prosperity!

恭喜发财!万事如意!身体健康!

IMG_20131222_2Our First overseas trip – KL

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Christmas 2013
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R3hab with John and his friends @ Zouk for Xmas
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Dinner with Mummy and John before party
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With my lovely family on Xmas day
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Gathering before 2014 with the peeps!
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My Loves!

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My Twin!

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2014!

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we didnt go anywhere extravagant, we were in the car, counting down with the radio station.
But it was beautiful, with kisses, hugs and wishes, we crossed over to 2014 together. 🙂
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My Ex Boss Gavin’s big day with Liz
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With the ex colleagues

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And i shall end my post with the current KPOP hair color i just did. 
Love my hair 😀

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A True Love Story of Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny

Morning peeps.

I usually know the title i should name for each post very quickly the moment i started typing. But it is really not easy this time, i will just see what comes to my mind later on.

I had a rough night and i woke up this morning feeling extremely tired and my eyes are swollen. I guess i have not cried so much for a long time and i cried my heart out last night at my neighbor’s wake.

Frankly, i am not a very friendly person (but i can be), i am never close to the neighbors but we do greet each other because that is simply manners.
In short, i do not usually interact much with the neighbors.

Nevertheless, i would like to tell a  story today.

The story is not about me. It is a simple, yet magnificent love story.
Sounds cliche much, i know. Especially when it comes from someone (yours truly) that has lost all faith in Love between a Man and Woman, that is. Haha.

Before anything, let me warn you, this is gona be a REALLY LENGTHY POST but it is definitely worth a read.

Ok, let’s start.

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Characters
Let’s give names to the characters of my story. There are Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny, their grandson Ah Boy and Ah Boy’s dad…let’s call him Mr Hum.

Don’t ask me why these names, they are fictional names but the they are real characters.

Uncle Potato was 20 when he married Auntie Tiny. They knew they were made for each other then and during their  time, getting married at 20 years old is a norm.
Life was not easy and back in those days, there was limited education about birth control and they had a whole truck of kids (i exaggerated, only 7….yah.)
But none of them complain, they knew this is what they wanted, they love their family, they love each other. Despite all odds and hardships.

Note: People nowadays are also capable in saying such stuff, but how many of them can actually do it and endure each other till the end? #foodforthought

Characters and their Family
Time flies and the 7 children grew up, all of them gotten married and the children left the family one by one to start their own family.

Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny were back to where they began, they were left with each other.
The children do come back to the house to visit them quite often though.
Something in the family happened and their eldest son Mr Hum stays with them with their grandson Ah Boy (Mr Hum’s son).

Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny were the ones that gave Ah Boy family love and Ah boy is no doubt, very close to the both grandparents.
Perhaps even closer to them than his own Dad because his Dad has to spend time outside to make a living.

The 4 of them are my neighbors and to be honest, they are really nice people.
I do not have many nice neighbors considering that one likes to gossip and spread rumors, one likes to throw dog poo out of the window and etc.
Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny can easily win the BEST NEIGHBOR AWARD.
They are friendly, helpful and very well mannered, despite the fact that they might not be highly educated, they are humble people.

My First Real Interaction with them
I remember  that there was once which Mum and i were locked out of our house, we needed help to make a phonecall and we had no phones with us, we went to Uncle Potato’s house. He and his wife welcomed us with the warmest hospitality. We made our phonecalls and yes, they were so warm and it really touched my heart. I will never forget that small favour they rendered and since then, i grew to like them even more.

About Ah Boy
Please do not ask me where is Ah Boy’s Mother, i am clueless. But despite staying with 2 uneducated old folks, Ah Boy is extremely polite and very sensible. There was a period of time which he stopped greeting my Mum when he sees her and we wondered y.
We then realized that he is actually just a very shy boy and as he was growing up, he probably felt uneasy to interact with people.
We have all been through that phase, didnt we?

However, he grew out of it, he is 11 yr old now and he started greeting my Mum whenever he sees her. There was one incident in which he didnt hold the lift for my Mum despite seeing her approaching. My Mum did not blame him, thinking that he is just a child. But he actually explained to her that he did not wait for her because he was rushing for his tuition and he apologized.
My heart melted when i heard this from my Mum and all i can say is, Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny really taught him well.

The  Bad News
The happy days lasted while it lasted. Approximately 6 months ago, Auntie Tiny was diagnosed with 2 tumors in her brain. That news came when she was complaining of headaches. Uncle Potato was heartbroken but he had never give up hope.

Uncle Potato chatted with my Mum then and according to Mum, his eyes turn teary whenever he talk about Auntie Tiny. But he was still full of hope and Mum encouraged him too.

Sadly, there was no good news. The tumors multiplied into 4 and by then, Auntie Tiny had almost lost all conscious of what was happening and she could not recognize Uncle Potato anymore. She could not sleep and she started sleep walking every single night.
Ah boy was really sad, so was his dad Mr Hum.
Uncle Potato felt helpless but all he knew was that he will be there for his wife till  the end.
He never sleep a wink everynight and because Auntie Tiny sleepwalk alot, he would walk around the house with her, fearing that she might knock into objects.

This situation went on for 5 months.
One morning, Uncle Potato slept for abit as Auntie Tiny seemed to be resting too. He woke up and found no one at home, feeling panicky, he wanted to rush out to look for Auntie Tiny.
But the moment he opened his gate, there she was, standing at the gate with Kopi, Beehoon and Rice.

Uncle Potato: Where did you go early in the morning???
Auntie Tiny: I went to buy food for you and the family (Ah Boy and Mr Hum)
Uncle Potato: Don’t need la! So dangerous, dont go out again anymore ok?

As Uncle Potato was narrating this part to me last night, my heart melted and i was already tearing non stop but what he said later was worse, it totally broke me up into pieces. I know lah, my threshold for such touching stuff is really low. I cannot tahan one leh!

So, Uncle Potato continued: When we were both healthy, Auntie told me before that she wants to leave first you know?
I: huh, when you both were younger and she wasnt ill that time ar?
Uncle Potato: yah lor. she wanted to leave first. haha.
I: then what did you say?
Uncle Potato:  I say to her, Cannot la! 
I: haha then what she say?
Uncle Potato: she say she wants and now her wish came true. ahha

FML, my heart shattered again.

The Last Days
Many times after work, i walked pass their unit seeing Uncle Potato hugging a skinny and scrawny Auntie Tiny. They were watching TV prog together and honestly, i was really comforted by the scene after a long day of work everyday.

Because i no longer believe in such love and what was shown to me, in my face was so real and unpretentious. I felt abit ashamed.

As you have already guessed, the time for Auntie Tiny to leave was near…On Tuesday morning, Aunty Tiny passed on.
I did not have a clue because nothing was amiss or different on that morning and i went to work as usual, their unit was not crowded with people or anything.
However, i received a text in the noon from my Mum, asking me to call her. I called her and she told me that Auntie Tiny has passed on.
My heart sank and i was reminded of my dream of her a month ago.
I dreamt that i was chatting with Auntie Tiny and in my dream, she was very healthy, not scrawny, very smiley. She looked relieved.
Wishing that the news is not true, Mum said over the phone that Uncle Potato has confirmed that Aunty Tiny has passed on and the wake will be held opp our block.

Honestly, i cant say i am grief stricken because we were not that close but i really wish that she can stay on longer. I felt sad.
Mum and i went to the wake of Auntie Tiny and Uncle Potato sat with us and shared about their story.
He told me something which i really want to hold dear in my heart, and i really want to share this with my readers, whether you are attached or not (it applies to your family members as well)

Uncle Potato said this: I am married  to my wife for 56 years, we are both 76 now. She has been my Only One. No One else.
We bickered but we have never quarreled .
You know why? I  believe when a person is gone (dead), he/she will just lie down there motionless, he/she will never be able to quarrel no matter  what
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I will just take whatever she say.
Now, those words are in me, and it is never too late to start to cherish, dont quarrel. Dont even give yourself the chance to quarrel because there comes a day which someone will pass and then you have to get used to the silence.

I totally broke down at this as i was reminded of how quarrelsome i am sometimes, with my family.

Uncle Potato: She bought a lot of rice to wrap dumplings, i threw them away already as that is not gona happen.
We used to go to the market daily, buy groceries, watch sunset together and we go everywhere together.
We would buy 4 ducks, 2 chickens to give to our relatives during CNY.
This coming CNY, i am gonna be alone doing these.
No, i wont cook anymore, because it is tasteless without her.
If she is still around, i am sure we will not only be married for 56years, maybe more.

Mum grabbed Uncle Potato’s hands and said: dont worry Uncle, she has gone to a better place, dont be sad.
Uncle Potato’s eyes was teary and he was fighting back his tears all the way.
It pains me so much.

I finally mastered my courage to say i wanted to see Auntie Tiny for the last time. Uncle Potato brought me to the coffin and there she was, lying in the coffin with a pearl in her mouth (Chinese Tradition) and she was really tiny.
My tears were flowing non stop and i kept telling her to rest in peace and have a good journey to the better place.
Uncle Potato whispered to her “look who is here, your neighbor and her daughter. can you hear what they told you? walk carefully to wherever you are, dont worry ok, bless them ar!”

Mum was crying too, she told Auntie Tiny to not worry, and we left the coffin. Ah Boy was burning paper money beside the coffin. (Chinese Tradition)

Because Mum and i are Christians, we did not offer any joss sticks. We did bow ourselves and frankly, i never felt any closer than the time i was speaking to Auntie Tiny at the coffin. It meant alot to me than offering joss sticks (sorry, no offences, just my personal opinion, i do respect the tradition but yah, i have my own belief)

We stayed for around an hours plus chatting with Uncle Potato and i was really glad  that Mum overcame her fear and went to the coffin to ‘speak’ to Auntie Tiny. We bid our last goodbye.

I know that Uncle Potato is thankful that we dropped by but nothing we say will make him feel better. But i believe this loving couple will meet someday. They are just separated for the time being. Maybe the One up there wana give them a tiny test.
Since they have never been separated ever since they were married, this is a tiny test and  also for them to miss each other’s presence.

I pray for nothing but God to take good care of Uncle Potato and Ah Boy. I heard that Ah Boy was devastated…But may the Lord be with them. Uncle Potato, i know you will always love Auntie Tiny, she lives in you forever, and i am sure you guys will meet someday.

I cant be more happy to dedicate this very simple, down to earth story to all my readers.This story has no extravagance, no luxurious marriage proposals, no wonderful ending, but it is the most real, most touching and most significant story i ever encountered.
I even thought to myself, perhaps i will never meet such a loyal and loving partner in this lifetime, but i am glad i am once so close to a fairytale.

It is a shame that i got to know this story at a wake, but i am very honored to be able to share this story to many of you.

Remember what Uncle Potato says?

Dont even give yourself the chance to quarrel with your partner because
there comes a day when someone will pass and then you have to get used to the silence
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Cherish your partner and Family. They might not come again even if there is next life.

Meanwhile, Goodbye Auntie Tiny, i am glad we crossed paths. 🙂 RIP in your paradise! This Post is dedicated to both you and Uncle Potato.

Thank God for showing me that True Love really does exists. It might not be on me, it might not be people of this era, but it does exists.
And a True Love Story will never have an ending because this story will go on and on…

Here is a song that my Sister suggested because i was asking her what song suits this story the best.
I have never cry so much listening to this song, although nice, but i am quite numb to loving radio friendly songs.
But, after this, i will always get  reminded of Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny whenever i hear this song.

Indeed, it is the best song ever….

And between now and then, till i see you again, i’ll be loving you….Love me~

Everyone should be accepted. Yes, even Gays.

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I am utterly disappointed once again, with fellow human beings.

Frankly, i am filled with anguish as i type this. I am also tearing while i do this. I do not know how these people can throw stones at others like as if they have the right  to.
I can imagine how sad the lost feels, the gay who confess his fear, his sadness, his extreme depressed soul got tempted to give up his life due to these judgmental comments coming from the ‘Pharisees’ of this era.

I do hope that these ‘Pharisees’  are not believers because i feel really sad seeing their hate messages towards others. If they are believers,  y and how can they say such things? Did they not remember what did Jesus say about acceptance and love?

I thought we have the same God in us, then how is it they can hurt and condemn others without hesitating, without love?

Why should condemnation exist?

I am pasting some printscreens and i am blogging about this because these people used God’s name to judge others.
I am not speaking on behalf of Jesus, but from what i was taught, all people are equal in His eyes, gays or not gays, murderers or not murderers.

We only have to speak the truth. It is indeed written that same sex should not be involved sexually. Well, that is a truth and i will not deny what is written, There are alot more commandments and we were told of no fornication and look at how many people in the world engages in sexual r/s before marriage? Look at the amount of lies from different people, look at the greed of people.

I am not saying we should all sin, i am saying that we sin differently. If we were to judge others, the judging will never stop. I repeat, IT WILL NEVER STOP.

You dont judge others just because they sin differently from you, Aaron Says So and Fan Bonk KeeShame on you 2 that cant let go and keep judging as if you both are perfect. Moreover, who are you to give the verdict of sinning? Who are you?
Having said that, i still do not want to keep labelling Gays as sinners, i said before and i say again, all of us human beings ARE sinners.

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Aaron Say So ·  Top Commenter · National University of Singapore
(Wonderul education qualification, but i am sad that education actually makes one stupid sometimes)

this Valencia Lesley is saying we all have to respect thieves and robbers, because Jesus is loving. 
So what if Jesus is loving? It is written, “brush off the dust from your scandals”. 
– Right, you TOO should be brushed off because you are behaving worse than thief and robber by robbing and stealing respect for the human kinds.
Brush off the dust? Yah, dont just quote part of a verse or scripture from a bible and take words out of context, you want to talk about bible, here is a verse for you –

Matthew 7:1-3 King James Version (KJV)

7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.

And he mentioned:
inside the pub, gay “a” who just get to know gay “b” for a few minutes, was rubbing his private part on gay “b” ‘s leg. gay “b” cheekily looks at the camera and says “he is rubbing me”. Come on, what is this? Is sex the only thing in a gay mind? I’m a man and I love woman, can I go around rubbing my private part on strangers? That gay inside the video even proudly declare he had over 50 sex partners. What over 50 sex partners? where is the humanity? Aren’t gay supposed to be faithful to one another? I’m sure if I walk into any gay pubs, most of the gays will be delighted to entertain me and hopefully have sex with me. Come on, think carefully, are you comfortable to have these gays mixing with your children? 
If you have to insist that gays are philandering, it just goes to show how ignorant you are. I can give you a list of places to go, to see how straight men and women behave too.
Maybe you were at those places before too, or perhaps you should try going sammyboy forum to find out how some straight people behave. Alternatively, go to any club and you might be lucky enough to catch some action going on.
Whats with the youtube link? You want to post links, i can give u 1482482334 links of how SOME straight people behaves in different clubs all over the world.Cmon, dont say such thing as Gays should be loyal and faithful to earn respect. EVERYONE SHOULD BE faithful.The raising divorce rate of the normal couples, do we judge that and say because divorce rate is high, we shouldnt get married?
Please do not suggest such silly bullshit about adultery, it might happen to anyone and it might be you or me or any other straight person. Hope you are a virgin or that you only sleep with 1 person in your entire life. Clapclap*
Lastly, you would rather spend time helping the poor? You have to choose who to help? Is that genuine love? Then i would choose to help who i want to help in the future and declare proudly to others that i am so helpful because i help the poor, and only the poor. While on the other hand, i type furiously behind the keyboard and judge the gays and secretly want them to die.
BRAVO. That is SO KIND of you. Maybe you can also come up with a list of people you would want to help and check off the ones that you personally detest which Jesus loves. Please do not argue with me on this because even when we deny Jesus, HE still chooses to love us. This is a fact, HE doesnt choose who to help and who not to help? Hello? If you want solid Truth from the bible since you love quoting, here it is, TRUTH, you like TRUTH right, you get it:

1 John 4:10

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10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

1 John 4:19 New International Version (NIV)

19 We love because he first loved us.

And despite that you keep saying/judging  that the gays reject God and all, too bad but God still loves them.

Ephesians 2:8 

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God,

As for you, do you think you abide in God? I would love to think you DO NOT, but i let God do the judging. But by seeing the verses and WHAT IT IS WRITTEN, i really feel you do not know God. For God is love and if you do not love, you do not know Him.

1 John 4:16 

So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us.
God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.

1 John 4:7-21

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God’s Love and Ours

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of Godand knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. 21 And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.

THERE IS NO FEAR IN LOVE, PERFECT LOVE CAST OUT ALL FEAR. By writing all those scary judgmental stuff, you are creating fear and i dont know how you can do that in the name of God. Put it simply, if Jesus is here today, He wouldnt do what you are doing.

GOD WILL NEVER PUT ANYONE DOWN.

Please understand that you and i are human, we are not supposed to judge madly about whoever’s sexual preference is, and etc. We can tell them what is written and stop at there, afterall, it is their choice and God gives us freedom of choice, Who are you to force your choice on others?
Lastly, i dont think so, nope. Please dont be so narcissitic to that extent, what makes you think any gay would want to make out with you.
Take a look in the mirror before saying things so loudly and proudly, i almost thought that sentence came from Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise.
I know you are super in love in yourself, good for you.
And yes, i am comfortable with my kids mixing with nice people, Gays or not.
I wud b worry if my kids mix with the philandering straight people too.
It is all about the character of the individual and i will never categorize anyone as BAD or UNFAITHFUL just because of their sexual preference.
It is 2 diff thing. I would be worried if my kid mixes ard with a mean judgmental person, like yourself.
And who knows how much porno you MIGHT watch. Opps, did i just judge lik you did, i am sorry if i did.
Anyway, my name is Valencia, not “THIS Valencia”, i do not add any silly nick infront or behind my name. Whereas you seem to deem everything you said as Truth because YOU SAY SO and you have to  insist in your name, i doubt anything else can go into your judgmental one sided brain. So, WHATEVER, if You Say So.

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I am STILL insisting that Gays are human beings and we ALL have human rights as long as we are human beings. We should ALL be respected.
I am seeing this world as a whole not because i am perfect, i am not perfect. I still cant hold my anger towards people sometimes, i get jealous at times too. I am not flawless and nobody is. Thus instead of being self righteous and judge others, i rather believe that everyone is the same, despite status nor monetary value. We come as dust, we leave as dust. Here i am talking about respect for all human kinds. We need respect, every individual.
I wanted to delete this blogpost and i actually wrote this days ago, i was still thinking if i should publish this as this topic is so subjective and debatable,
It is not worth the time and effort as this problem will never go as long as i dont know when. But i really cant contain it within myself and see these people ‘bullying’ the Gays, I personally dont think anyone has the rights to do that.
I was being reprimanded and lectured by many many people the other time i stood up to speak up for the Gays. Most of the times, i was told that i am a Christian, i need to represent God and be strict with what is in the Bible.
I do not know if i am going against God, but i have acknowledged that it is written that individuals of the same sex should not be involved. I am not painting a nice picture and being a hypocrite like what Fan Bonk Kee was suggesting above. I know what is written. I know they are laws.
I Love my Belief, i Love God and i really really respect what was taught to me.
BUT it is also a fact that Jesus accepts all kinds of people. He doesnt discriminate and condemns. He told us what is good for us, and He leave the choice to us. I still believe that and i believe He loves us despite any situation.
I know this post will anger alot of people and i know it will definitely offend a group of Christians. I am sorry. I cant be self righteous for this matter, i cant blame nor point fingers to blame Gays. If you cant accept me or this post, too bad.
I cant stress enough on how SOME Christians turn very self righteous as time goes by. They feel that they are God, they forbid any freedom of choice and speech. I wouldnt wish to be like that.
Besides, we are supposed to learn to accept, i am still learning hard. If we do not accept, who will? God want us to accept, to love, to help,
By shutting people you dislike and detest out, how will they ever know who God is? Isnt that too rigid? Jesus does not only mixes with the good, instead, He mixes with the saddest, worst people.
Again, i emphasize, i am in no way saying Gays are saddest  or worst people. I have always been seeing everyone as human being, not an object categorized by his or her sexual preference.
And frankly, if you ask me if i will want my kids to be Gays or Lesbians? My answer is No. I am not being hypocrite, i just cant bear to see my son or daughter get bullied in future. The society now does not recognise human rights, there are too many people judging. I worry for their well being,
And yes, i would rather they are straight because that is what is deemed as ‘normal’ in this society, and fine, i admit that my belief says so too.
But i am sure i will still love my children very much because they are my children and nothing changes that fact. Same as God, we are His children, i will never believe  that HE will hate us because of the choice we made.
I will accept and respect my kids no matter what.

Just to add, i have known more gay couples that still stay together after so long, faithfully standing by each other than the normal straight couples. Let just say. out of 10 gay couples i known, 8 of them are still loving each other faithfully while outta 10 straight couples that i know, only 2 or 3 of them are married and the rest either split up or ended up in adultery.

 

Of course, this statistic is based on my own circle of friends, you can argue that i might have lousy unfaithful friends, well, whatever. I have nothing to say to that. But i am not suggesting that gays are more faithful than straights. I just want to point out the fact that not gays are as philandering as what

“aaron says so” said. (damn, i really feel silly typing out that name)
I think i have said enough. You may dislike this post, but seriously, i dont care. If you want to judge me and this post, you have to do a reality check on your own life first. Pray for God to change your thinking before thinking of changing mine.

And in the meantime, i hope whoever that are affected by all the hurting comments, to be strong and wise to filter out what is not needed.

 

 

Everyone is same but different, everyone deserves to be loved and accepted. Dont feel any smaller or inferior.

Remember this,

You are wonderfully made by the Creator

I really do not agree with condoning the behavior of the 2 judgmental writers above.
I have zero tolerance towards a cyber bully, or bullies in general.

Thus i really see  the need of doing this.

It is up to you to judge me. But whatever it is, bullies should not be hidden behind the screen, they should be publicized.

“Self righteousness is not love, and is not from God.
Stop that hatred for gays, you judge not and leave it to God.
Dont talk laws to me for i am aware, but Jesus taught us about Acceptance, Grace and Love.
– Valencia Lesley

My lips will glorify You Psalms 63:3

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Because of U, i am born again. Let me take this time to thank U. I love you my Jesus.

DrRobiInvite (1)Speaking of which, i cant wait to attend Dr Robi’s svs soon! He is a fantastic speaker and i remember that the seats were always filled up whenever he preaches at CHC. This time round, he will be preaching at Heart of God Church.
If you are keen, you may check out the website of HOG.

 

I Knew I Loved You Before I Met You

I used to wonder what  this song really means. How can i love someone before meeting him/her?

This is a song from the 90s. Almost everyone loves  this song and nobody actually dislike it, i think.

But i  didnt understand how does one love another  before meeting him/her?

Now i do.

The preparation works you do, the way you prepare yourself for your partner even if he/she hasnt appear.
Praying for your partner even before he/she appearing in your life…

The way you learn to cook before he/she appears, the way you learn to be patient with people so that you cultivate a better nature and  be a person with better temper when he/she appears.

The way you learn to love unconditionally so you will be selfless when he/she appears.

Thats how you love someone before you met him/her.

But you know who shows the greatest example that He loves you even before He met you?

Thats right. JESUS CHRIST is the One that loves me even before i am born on earth. He died 2000 yrs ago for me.

This kind of Love is just so great & magnificent .

Thats what He did for me and my family.

Thus i definitely Trust Him this time round and He is still loving us…He is the same 2000 yrs ago, today and tomorrow.

There is nothing he wouldnt do for us because He doesnt know how to shortchange us.

All i have to do, is to keep my Faith. Constant Faith.

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Thank you Jesus

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Credits: Jesus Daily

Loyalty in a Relationship

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Just a random thought and i feel like sharing. I did not intend to write about this but i was doing some work when i happened to know about someone (dont ask me who) messaging his ‘mistress’. Needless to say, i am disgusted.

Actually, in any r/s, the most important factor is Trust – they say.

I think the most important factor has to be Honesty and Transparency.

Trust comes from Honesty isnt it?

It is really sad to know that many people are having affair with someone else other than their boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives.
Whats worse is, they actually think it is ‘Okay’ or ‘Alright’ to do so.

I am not gona blog a whole chunk of logics and theories today. Thus i will save on the big reasons of how and why 1 shouldnt betray.

When 2 became 1 ( i am talking about married couples), it is actually expected that 2 separate individuals come together and joined themselves in spirit and soul as one. So if 1 is hurting or betraying another person, it is as well as hurting own-self. If you love your partner as much as you love yourself, why would you hurt him/her? You wouldnt because you guys are 1.

Maybe some people don’t understand what i am talking about. Is fine. To make it simpler, i actually think it is pointless to cheat…If you intend to b with someone. Why cheat? If you havent had enough of fun, then stay single? Simple?

But we can never stop people from being selfish isnt it? Many of those that cheat are just greedy people that are never satisfied with whatever they already have or owned. They do not want to let go of their comfort zone but they couldnt stay disciplined to that comfort zone.

In short, they are just self centered. There is nothing one can do about such people or Betrayals.

So, when Betrayals occur, what do you do? What would you do?

There are only 2 ways – Give up and move on OR Forgive and stay on.

Actually, there is another way which is rarely mentioned – Forgive and Move on.

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To give up and move on –  sounds like it is the easiest but it is also the hardest. To give up on a r/s that you cherished so much, a r/s that you spent time and effort for, isnt that simple as it sounds. Moreover, it is written in your Marriage Vow –  “Till Death do us part” 
If betrayal isnt anywhere near Death, does that mean a couple should not part?
Afterall, it is written in the Vow, and a Vow is a Vow because it isnt a promise.
Promises can be broken but not a vow.
Do we honor the Vow and hang on to the r/s and forget about parting then?

Now, Forgiving and staying in the r/s tt is already stained, is a huge responsibility and when i say Forgive, it means you are ready to start afresh and not think about the betrayal that once happened. No matter how tough the situation might arise in future, you can never mention about the past. You forgive with your whole heart and you bear no jealousy, no doubt, no hatred, no anger, no hurt ever…You are not to be reminded of what happened before, you are not to become paranoid because of what that happened before. You basically start everything anew.
So, is it that easy to forgive and stay on? Not for me.

The last choice that is left is to Forgive and move on..We all know that Forgiveness is the hardest. But perhaps by moving on, you will hate lesser?
Besides, have you heard that even if you forgive, you do not have to stay with that person? You simply forgive for your own sake, but you leave the person for the best of both persons.
I am not sure about you. For me, i left my ex boyfriend not because i chose to but I thank him and i thank God for the breakup because God knows how long more i might stay on. The betrayals and abuse he gave is horrendous, really not very easy for me to forgive.
To be honest, i dont even know if i still hate him, he is like a stranger to me now. But if given the chance to meet again, i rather not. LOL.
But by leaving each other, i realise that it is really easier to forgive, perhaps this is why some breakups is really meant for the best for 2 parties.
Of course, thank God we werent married, if not, i will really be in dilemma.

Because i am a Christian and Marriage is Sacred to me, i really honor what thats written and what Jesus said. Although yes, i might not be perfect and i might not have honored everything that was written, but i really try my best to. And for a Marriage, if there is no transparency and loyalty, then why bother to get married?

So, honestly, after seeing that someone msging his ‘mistress‘ just now, i do not know what to say. It seems like the whole world is doing such thing and thinking it is alright to do so.

GF told me her friend cheated on her bf with another man. That ‘another man’ is married and anticipating his 2nd child. Isnt that heartbreaking?

A friend of mine forgave his wife after his wife cheated on him and decided to accept the wife again.

More examples which i really cant be bothered to list.

The world is so warped that i cant resist asking myself  “which man (or woman) is really loyal to their partner nowadays?”

It is so sad to even think of human beings in that way right…but thats how the world is now. Sadly.

Some women i talked to, told me that they knew what was going on with their straying husbands but they chose to ‘close one eye’ – they chose  to pretend that they do not know as long as their husbands come back to them, come back  home after each scandal that happened outside.

I feel it is ridiculous but well, some people can just do that.

Some men i spoke to, told me that there will be no excuse to betrayals and thus they will chose to divorce or break up with their partner no matter what. They added “i am a man, i have my pride”
Now, thats how fuck up most men are, their pride and ego is everything. I am not condemning all the men here ok, i am just saying most or some of the men that i knew of. Do you dare to tell me you have never hear that from a man before?

Why should a man be expected to fool around and be looked up to and why is it when a woman do the same thing, they are being labelled as sluts?

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I dont know about you but i guess i wouldnt pretend that i dont know anything because that isnt me. But if i ever break up with someone over betrayal issue, it wouldnt be because of my pride. It would most prolly means i cant go on anymore and going on will be painful and once Trust is gone, everything will just go downhill. I cant say i will definitely forgive but i will try, but to stay on in the r/s, it is impossible.

Thus i think i can never be married right now because i still cant honor “till Death do us Part”, because in my world, i honor “till Betrayals do us Part”. I do not expect my partner to be flawless, i expect my r/s to be flawless.

And when i say “Flawless”, it doesnt mean that the r/s is full of roses, choc and sweet moments without argument or whatnot. Flawless to me, simply means – ZERO betrayal.

Sounds easy but it is really not easy in the society now. Being in a world full of temptations, having advance technology that help speed up the process of getting in touch with your temptations, one can really stray easily without even realising.
(In the past, you need a phone to page your fling and your fling has to call you back and all. Now, you just need to wechat or whatsapp FOR FREE somemore, and thats all! Hassle Free and easy to manage, just delete the message history. Or if you like, you can even find some potential whorish looking women that looks like they are out for fun, or some desperate dudes that are hunger for sex while the wife is expecting over FB. All you need to do is ‘POKE’, FB poke i mean. But it doesnt take long for that FB poke to turn into a real ‘poke’)

Actually…I do not know why people still believe in True Love.  (opps, did alot of you just roll your eyes at this sentence? lol)

Okok, i do believe that True Love might still exist in some corners of this earth, but i cant help being skeptical.

But anyway. Tts not the point. lol.

So…what do you think you would do if your partner cheats on you?

Trust and Honesty, do you expect these as basic of the r/s or are they bonuses in a r/s?

And lastly, to all Adulterers and Betrayers, this verse is for you.
Dont worry, it isnt hard to understand and you need not be a Christian to understand.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Matthew 7:12

Feel free to email me to share if you have anything to share! my mailbox is valenciafaithz.z@gmail.com 🙂

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