I usually know the title i should name for each post very quickly the moment i started typing. But it is really not easy this time, i will just see what comes to my mind later on.
I had a rough night and i woke up this morning feeling extremely tired and my eyes are swollen. I guess i have not cried so much for a long time and i cried my heart out last night at my neighbor’s wake.
Frankly, i am not a very friendly person (but i can be), i am never close to the neighbors but we do greet each other because that is simply manners.
In short, i do not usually interact much with the neighbors.
Nevertheless, i would like to tell a story today.
The story is not about me. It is a simple, yet magnificent love story.
Sounds cliche much, i know. Especially when it comes from someone (yours truly) that has lost all faith in Love between a Man and Woman, that is. Haha.
Before anything, let me warn you, this is gona be a REALLY LENGTHY POST but it is definitely worth a read.
Ok, let’s start.
Let’s give names to the characters of my story. There are Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny, their grandson Ah Boy and Ah Boy’s dad…let’s call him Mr Hum.
Don’t ask me why these names, they are fictional names but the they are real characters.
Uncle Potato was 20 when he married Auntie Tiny. They knew they were made for each other then and during their time, getting married at 20 years old is a norm.
Life was not easy and back in those days, there was limited education about birth control and they had a whole truck of kids (i exaggerated, only 7….yah.)
But none of them complain, they knew this is what they wanted, they love their family, they love each other. Despite all odds and hardships.
Note: People nowadays are also capable in saying such stuff, but how many of them can actually do it and endure each other till the end? #foodforthought
Characters and their Family
Time flies and the 7 children grew up, all of them gotten married and the children left the family one by one to start their own family.
Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny were back to where they began, they were left with each other.
The children do come back to the house to visit them quite often though.
Something in the family happened and their eldest son Mr Hum stays with them with their grandson Ah Boy (Mr Hum’s son).
Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny were the ones that gave Ah Boy family love and Ah boy is no doubt, very close to the both grandparents.
Perhaps even closer to them than his own Dad because his Dad has to spend time outside to make a living.
The 4 of them are my neighbors and to be honest, they are really nice people.
I do not have many nice neighbors considering that one likes to gossip and spread rumors, one likes to throw dog poo out of the window and etc.
Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny can easily win the BEST NEIGHBOR AWARD.
They are friendly, helpful and very well mannered, despite the fact that they might not be highly educated, they are humble people.
My First Real Interaction with them
I remember that there was once which Mum and i were locked out of our house, we needed help to make a phonecall and we had no phones with us, we went to Uncle Potato’s house. He and his wife welcomed us with the warmest hospitality. We made our phonecalls and yes, they were so warm and it really touched my heart. I will never forget that small favour they rendered and since then, i grew to like them even more.
About Ah Boy
Please do not ask me where is Ah Boy’s Mother, i am clueless. But despite staying with 2 uneducated old folks, Ah Boy is extremely polite and very sensible. There was a period of time which he stopped greeting my Mum when he sees her and we wondered y.
We then realized that he is actually just a very shy boy and as he was growing up, he probably felt uneasy to interact with people.
We have all been through that phase, didnt we?
However, he grew out of it, he is 11 yr old now and he started greeting my Mum whenever he sees her. There was one incident in which he didnt hold the lift for my Mum despite seeing her approaching. My Mum did not blame him, thinking that he is just a child. But he actually explained to her that he did not wait for her because he was rushing for his tuition and he apologized.
My heart melted when i heard this from my Mum and all i can say is, Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny really taught him well.
The Bad News
The happy days lasted while it lasted. Approximately 6 months ago, Auntie Tiny was diagnosed with 2 tumors in her brain. That news came when she was complaining of headaches. Uncle Potato was heartbroken but he had never give up hope.
Uncle Potato chatted with my Mum then and according to Mum, his eyes turn teary whenever he talk about Auntie Tiny. But he was still full of hope and Mum encouraged him too.
Sadly, there was no good news. The tumors multiplied into 4 and by then, Auntie Tiny had almost lost all conscious of what was happening and she could not recognize Uncle Potato anymore. She could not sleep and she started sleep walking every single night.
Ah boy was really sad, so was his dad Mr Hum.
Uncle Potato felt helpless but all he knew was that he will be there for his wife till the end.
He never sleep a wink everynight and because Auntie Tiny sleepwalk alot, he would walk around the house with her, fearing that she might knock into objects.
This situation went on for 5 months.
One morning, Uncle Potato slept for abit as Auntie Tiny seemed to be resting too. He woke up and found no one at home, feeling panicky, he wanted to rush out to look for Auntie Tiny.
But the moment he opened his gate, there she was, standing at the gate with Kopi, Beehoon and Rice.
Uncle Potato: Where did you go early in the morning???
Auntie Tiny: I went to buy food for you and the family (Ah Boy and Mr Hum)
Uncle Potato: Don’t need la! So dangerous, dont go out again anymore ok?
As Uncle Potato was narrating this part to me last night, my heart melted and i was already tearing non stop but what he said later was worse, it totally broke me up into pieces. I know lah, my threshold for such touching stuff is really low. I cannot tahan one leh!
So, Uncle Potato continued: When we were both healthy, Auntie told me before that she wants to leave first you know?
I: huh, when you both were younger and she wasnt ill that time ar?
Uncle Potato: yah lor. she wanted to leave first. haha.
I: then what did you say?
Uncle Potato: I say to her, Cannot la!
I: haha then what she say?
Uncle Potato: she say she wants and now her wish came true. ahha
FML, my heart shattered again.
The Last Days
Many times after work, i walked pass their unit seeing Uncle Potato hugging a skinny and scrawny Auntie Tiny. They were watching TV prog together and honestly, i was really comforted by the scene after a long day of work everyday.
Because i no longer believe in such love and what was shown to me, in my face was so real and unpretentious. I felt abit ashamed.
As you have already guessed, the time for Auntie Tiny to leave was near…On Tuesday morning, Aunty Tiny passed on.
I did not have a clue because nothing was amiss or different on that morning and i went to work as usual, their unit was not crowded with people or anything.
However, i received a text in the noon from my Mum, asking me to call her. I called her and she told me that Auntie Tiny has passed on.
My heart sank and i was reminded of my dream of her a month ago.
I dreamt that i was chatting with Auntie Tiny and in my dream, she was very healthy, not scrawny, very smiley. She looked relieved.
Wishing that the news is not true, Mum said over the phone that Uncle Potato has confirmed that Aunty Tiny has passed on and the wake will be held opp our block.
Honestly, i cant say i am grief stricken because we were not that close but i really wish that she can stay on longer. I felt sad.
Mum and i went to the wake of Auntie Tiny and Uncle Potato sat with us and shared about their story.
He told me something which i really want to hold dear in my heart, and i really want to share this with my readers, whether you are attached or not (it applies to your family members as well)
Uncle Potato said this: I am married to my wife for 56 years, we are both 76 now. She has been my Only One. No One else.
We bickered but we have never quarreled .
You know why? I believe when a person is gone (dead), he/she will just lie down there motionless, he/she will never be able to quarrel no matter what. So, i really cherish the times i had with her, i have never liked the idea of quarreling.
I will just take whatever she say.
Now, those words are in me, and it is never too late to start to cherish, dont quarrel. Dont even give yourself the chance to quarrel because there comes a day which someone will pass and then you have to get used to the silence.
I totally broke down at this as i was reminded of how quarrelsome i am sometimes, with my family.
Uncle Potato: She bought a lot of rice to wrap dumplings, i threw them away already as that is not gona happen.
We used to go to the market daily, buy groceries, watch sunset together and we go everywhere together.
We would buy 4 ducks, 2 chickens to give to our relatives during CNY.
This coming CNY, i am gonna be alone doing these.
No, i wont cook anymore, because it is tasteless without her.
If she is still around, i am sure we will not only be married for 56years, maybe more.
Mum grabbed Uncle Potato’s hands and said: dont worry Uncle, she has gone to a better place, dont be sad.
Uncle Potato’s eyes was teary and he was fighting back his tears all the way.
It pains me so much.
I finally mastered my courage to say i wanted to see Auntie Tiny for the last time. Uncle Potato brought me to the coffin and there she was, lying in the coffin with a pearl in her mouth (Chinese Tradition) and she was really tiny.
My tears were flowing non stop and i kept telling her to rest in peace and have a good journey to the better place.
Uncle Potato whispered to her “look who is here, your neighbor and her daughter. can you hear what they told you? walk carefully to wherever you are, dont worry ok, bless them ar!”
Mum was crying too, she told Auntie Tiny to not worry, and we left the coffin. Ah Boy was burning paper money beside the coffin. (Chinese Tradition)
Because Mum and i are Christians, we did not offer any joss sticks. We did bow ourselves and frankly, i never felt any closer than the time i was speaking to Auntie Tiny at the coffin. It meant alot to me than offering joss sticks (sorry, no offences, just my personal opinion, i do respect the tradition but yah, i have my own belief)
We stayed for around an hours plus chatting with Uncle Potato and i was really glad that Mum overcame her fear and went to the coffin to ‘speak’ to Auntie Tiny. We bid our last goodbye.
I know that Uncle Potato is thankful that we dropped by but nothing we say will make him feel better. But i believe this loving couple will meet someday. They are just separated for the time being. Maybe the One up there wana give them a tiny test.
Since they have never been separated ever since they were married, this is a tiny test and also for them to miss each other’s presence.
I pray for nothing but God to take good care of Uncle Potato and Ah Boy. I heard that Ah Boy was devastated…But may the Lord be with them. Uncle Potato, i know you will always love Auntie Tiny, she lives in you forever, and i am sure you guys will meet someday.
I cant be more happy to dedicate this very simple, down to earth story to all my readers.This story has no extravagance, no luxurious marriage proposals, no wonderful ending, but it is the most real, most touching and most significant story i ever encountered.
I even thought to myself, perhaps i will never meet such a loyal and loving partner in this lifetime, but i am glad i am once so close to a fairytale.
It is a shame that i got to know this story at a wake, but i am very honored to be able to share this story to many of you.
Remember what Uncle Potato says?
Dont even give yourself the chance to quarrel with your partner because
there comes a day when someone will pass and then you have to get used to the silence.
Cherish your partner and Family. They might not come again even if there is next life.
Meanwhile, Goodbye Auntie Tiny, i am glad we crossed paths. 🙂 RIP in your paradise! This Post is dedicated to both you and Uncle Potato.
Thank God for showing me that True Love really does exists. It might not be on me, it might not be people of this era, but it does exists.
And a True Love Story will never have an ending because this story will go on and on…
Here is a song that my Sister suggested because i was asking her what song suits this story the best.
I have never cry so much listening to this song, although nice, but i am quite numb to loving radio friendly songs.
But, after this, i will always get reminded of Uncle Potato and Auntie Tiny whenever i hear this song.
Indeed, it is the best song ever….
And between now and then, till i see you again, i’ll be loving you….Love me~